Miss Manners: Black tie wedding was full of sports jackets and khakis

Dear Miss Manners: I received an invitation to the wedding of a colleague’s child. Every piece of correspondence noted, “This is a black-tie affair. Please dress accordingly.”

My husband finally borrowed a tuxedo from a friend, but not without multitudinous complaints about how pretentious it was and how uncomfortable he was in the tuxedo that I was “making him wear.” (Honestly, he is in his 60s; he's not 9 years old.)