Carolyn Hax: Why is he trying to sabotage his partner’s very public success?

Adapted from an online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn: I have just had a very public success: Something I’ve written and starred in premiered to rave reviews in the national paper, sold out houses, etc.

It’s like my partner is doing his best to ruin my big week. He has barely spoken to me other than to call me selfish for leaving our son each evening to perform, and to say my costume is unflattering. I just can’t fathom why he’d act this way the week I most need his support. It was terrifying to launch this, and I didn’t need someone berating me late into the night before the big day.