Even though you may be in a relationship with someone for years, there may come a time when you realize you actually were never in love with them. So when Reddit user u/ThrowRAyz asked the r/AskWomen community: "What made you realize that you weren't actually 'in love' with that person?" they provided very thoughtful and honest answers. Here's what they had to say below.
1. "When I started lying about my off days just to avoid us being able to spend extra time together."
2. "When I realized he was acting like a child more than an adult (i.e. conflict avoidance, lack of self-control, over-emotional responses). Adults manage their emotions and handle things directly and logically. It’s one thing to escalate a situation and defend yourself when it’s called for, but it’s another to either have no boundaries at all or to flip out over every little thing. Both behaviors are extremely unattractive. As soon as I could see any of this in my partners, I was over them."
"Yeah, my ex was like this. He didn’t seem to understand why punching holes in walls and doors when you’re mad is an issue. He seemed to think that hitting things was a normal thing to do — but when I expressed that it made me uncomfortable, he thought that I was the problem and that he couldn’t 'be himself' around me.
Honestly, It was like watching a toddler having a temper tantrum."
3. "He started to have medical issues and couldn’t work. I supported him and took care of him, and I started to feel like I was his mother — then he cheated on me. After 28 years together, I was done. I packed up and moved out of state a couple of months later."
