Warning: This post contains mentions of abuse and drug use.
We recently asked women of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the "final straw" moment that made them call off their wedding and end their engagement. Here are some of the most eye-opening, heartbreaking, and shocking stories:
1. "So, my then-fiancé and I went to Vegas together, and he decided to go club-hopping one night; I decided to stay at the hotel because I was super exhausted. I must have slept pretty heavily because when I woke up the next morning, there was my 'fiancé' sleeping on the couch with ANOTHER WOMAN in our hotel room!"
"Let’s just say, I dumped his sorry ass in Vegas."
2. "We were talking about our reception and ceremony. He was a former firefighter and wanted to 'save me' from a burning stage. At first, I thought it was a joke because he also did improv, but nope. (I know, the red flags were there.) This is a man who was financially dependent on me and also treated me like I was his mother. I cooked, cleaned, paid for everything, and he still saw me as the damsel in distress. After that conversation, I realized how much he had been projecting everything he wanted on me and how much I had been allowing it."
"I also happened to start connecting with the man who would eventually become my husband at the time and treated me as a complete equal. That was the nail in the coffin. When I realized there was someone out there who saw me as the strong and capable person I was without trying to turn me into his mom, I ended it."
—36, Minnesota
3. "My fiancé was in love with his mother. I’m not being dramatic — his phone contact for her was 'Mommy' with several hearts. Sometimes, he would cry and ask for his mommy. I know it sounds harsh, and there is nothing wrong with loving your parents. But he was a 27-year-old man who kept a shirt covered in his mom’s perfume to smell for comfort every morning and night. He texted his mom several times an hour. He called her at least five times a day."
"When we talked about having children, he told me he wanted to honor his mom in all their names. So, if her name was Sandra, for example, he wanted a girl named Sandra, a boy named Sandy, and any other children to have some variation of her name. It got to the point where I left when he told me he wanted me to make some sort of vow to his mother in the ceremony. There is only so much I could take."
—25, California
