‘He socked me’ – the horrible backstory of Tatum O’Neal’s historic Oscar success

It was 50 years ago, in 1974, that O’Neal became the youngest ever Oscar winner, for her performance opposite her father Ryan in Peter Bogdanovich’s scammers-on-the-road movie Paper Moon. O’Neal was just eight when she shot the film, and 10 when she won the award.

This was a win that has stood the test of time. The black-and-white Depression-era drama remains one of the most esteemed American films of the 1970s, and is still, to this day, inimitably charming. It soared thanks to O’Neal: the young actor delivers the quintessential “Hollywood child actor” performance, full of pluck and pathos. Her chemistry with her father was lived-in and heartfelt. Offscreen, however, it was a different story The daughter of Ryan and the actor Joanna Moore, O’Neal endured a childhood full of parental neglect and outright abuse.

“You’d think an Oscar nomination would be an indelible moment, a victory to cherish and savour for a lifetime,” she wrote in her 2004 memoir A Paper Life.

“But for me it must have been a trauma instead of a triumph.”

O’Neal described her father’s “deep resentment” over the acclaim she received, supposedly at his expense. By the time awards season swung around, his jealousy was “out of control”, she claimed.

There were exacerbating factors. Ryan, the late star of Love Story and Bogdanovich’s screwball comedy What’s Up Doc?, was in the throes of a drug problem. “Once so loving and funny, he had grown crazily moody,” O’Neal later said. He would allegedly tell her: “I just don’t like you, Tatum.”

O’Neal says she has no memory of the nominations announcement, though was told by someone else present that her father had “socked” her upon finding out that she was nominated and he was not.

Explaining her inability to remember the incident, O’Neal heartbreakingly wrote: “For a child already obsessed with losing her father, who was living in terror, believing that his love was ebbing away, that would have been way too painful to process. If I’ve blocked it out, it’s no wonder.”

At the time of the nominations, O’Neal and her father were staying in England, while he was filming his lead role in Stanley Kubrick’s period masterpiece Barry Lyndon. Amid the announcement, Ryan vented his frustrations to the media, telling British reporters that his daughter was “lazy by nature” and had “taken over the picture”. When she went back to the US for Oscar night, he did not accompany her.

“Returning to the States for the ceremony – alone, shaky and sad – I felt like Little Orphan Annie,” O’Neal later wrote, remembering the night itself with some misgivings.

To onlookers, however, the scene was a fairytale. At the Dorothy Chandler Pavilion on Oscar night, O’Neal was adorable and innocent-seeming, suited in a custom tuxedo (in imitation of Bianca Jagger, the wife of Mick Jagger with whom her father was having an affair at the time).

When O’Neal went up to accept the trophy, she hadn’t prepared a speech. She ended up saying: “All I really want to thank is my director, Peter Bogdanovich, and my father. Thank you.”

After the ceremony, she received an uncharacteristically affirming phone call from her father, who went on to display the statuette on his mantle.

“It was as if he suddenly saw there was cache in having an Academy Award-winning daughter,” O’Neal said, adding that he would routinely seek to take credit for the victory.

Her reflections on the Oscar win are profoundly sad, including the claim the achievement failed to provoke any “fanfare from anyone who mattered to me… The feeling I associate most with winning the Oscar is an overwhelming sadness at being abandoned by my parents – both of them, for my mother remained silent – one more time,” she wrote.

The years that followed were bleak and chaotic, marked by more parental abuse and neglect. (This is all per O’Neal’s account of things, Ryan described the allegations of abuse in his daughter’s book as “malicious lies”.)

She was sexually abused by other adults as a child, and attempted to take her own life three times. She and her brother Griffin developed serious addiction issues of their own.

One notorious low point saw Ryan make a pass at his daughter while at the funeral of his long-time partner, Charlie’s Angels actor Farah Fawcett. O’Neal had been estranged from her father at the time, and he said he didn’t recognise her. Subsequently, the pair were able to repair their relationship. In 2020, O’Neal overdosed and suffered a major stroke, nearly dying. Ryan died in December 2023 of congestive heart failure.

It’s easy to forget, amid the tragedy, injustice and brutal horror of her life, the sheer magic that O’Neal was able to cast on screen. Despite everything, Paper Moon does endure as a celebration of a child’s prodigious talent.

But nothing could possibly have been worth the cost.