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Women Revealed What It's Like Being In A Sex-Less Relationship, And It's Very Eye-Opening

"We haven’t had sex in almost 14 years, and it’s been rough (and before that, little to no sexual chemistry). I was so young and naïve — we're more like roommates with children and have a 'business' (which is running a family)."

Recently Reddit user Fresh-Astronomer3666 asked the women of the community, "Women who do not have a lot of sexual chemistry with their spouses, how is your marriage going?"

Angela Bassett and Taye Diggs in "How Stella Got Her Groove Back"
20th Century Fox

Women got super candid and admitted deeply eye-opening truths about their sex lives. Having a sex life with their partner is either an extreme necessity or something they don't give a hoot about.

Reneé Rapp and Midori Francis in "Sex Lives of College Girls"
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Their stories were so relatable that they inspired the BuzzFeed Community to share some of their own.

Kim Cattrall in "Sex and the City"
HBO

So, here are some women who revealed both sides of the coin when it comes to sexual chemistry:

Note: These submissions don't reflect a universal experience of sexual chemistry between partners. Everyone's story is different. 

1. "My ex kept insisting something was wrong with me because what got him off didn't do much for me. This was symptomatic of the whole relationship — his way was 'the only way.' I wish I didn't care about sex, but this situation caused me a lot of pain and anxiety (especially because he would get aggressive and lash out at me for not having an orgasm). I always had to fake it — I never had a real one. I'm not sure I'll ever meet a man I'm compatible with, but it's already a relief to be out of that miserable relationship."

—ceeweeweewee

2. "I was the one who cut back on the sex because when I was septic in the hospital from a UTI that I got from hav