CORRECT YOURSELF COMPASSIONATELY
Meditation can feel intimidating because “we don’t have a clear picture of what success looks like”, Shah said. When she first started meditating, she often felt like “a bad meditator” when she got distracted.
Despite your best efforts, stray thoughts will often creep in. The key is not to see this as a failure.
“No matter how experienced you are, your mind is going to wander,” Ivanovic said. When it does, gently redirect yourself back to your breath. Use the patient, forgiving tone you’d take with a child or pet, she added. “Like, ‘whoops, no, not over there, come back over here.’”
You may find that listening to a guided meditation helps you stay more focused and gives you the building blocks for meditating on your own.
“The whole purpose of meditation,” Dr Tsuda said, is “to train ourselves to be present with our experience without criticising or judging ourselves.”
ADD SOME MOVEMENT
Not everybody will be comfortable with a seated meditation, even a five-minute one, particularly people who are easily distracted. Also, “if you’re very anxious, it’s almost impossible to sit still with your thoughts,” Dr Tsuda said.
Blending mindfulness with movement can multiply the benefits of both. After you wake up, while the day is still cool, consider a quick walking meditation, which research has shown can reduce psychological distress (and potentially alleviate depression and improve balance in older people).
While you walk, look for something around you in every colour of the rainbow: A red flower, an orange sign, a yellow shirt and so on.
And if other thoughts creep in, Dr Tsuda said, “bring yourself back and notice how your body feels when you’re walking. Hear the birds chirping. Be fully present.”
By Holly Burns © The New York Times Company
The article originally appeared in The New York Times.