Asking for a friend: ‘My partner insists she has the right to look through my phone. Will asking her to move in with me reassure her I’m not cheating?’
'Plenty of cheaters live with partners and still find ways to cheat.' Stock photo
Q: My partner is insisting they have the right to look through my phone and it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I haven’t done this before with anyone, and I value my privacy. I know she has been cheated on in the past, and I did tell her that I had cheated before. But that was with someone where the relationship was really casual, and we had only gone out for a couple of months. When I first started dating my current partner, she asked me about cheating, and I thought being honest was the best approach as I knew I wanted to make a go of it with her and wanted to be clear. She does have trust issues because of being cheated on before but I don’t want them to cause issues in our relationship. We have had some changes lately with new jobs, and we don’t live together, but I wonder if moving in together will help her feel more secure? We have been together almost a year so I was hoping we would move in together in maybe a year or so, but would it make her happier if I suggested this now? It might reassure her that I am not cheating on her.