The Best Sex Toys for Every Body
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Best Basic VibratorMaude DropRead more
Best Suction Toy for Most PeopleSatisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 Air Pulse ToyRead more
Best Luxury Suction ToyLelo Sona 2 CruiseRead more
Sex tech has come a long way in the past 10 years—not only in terms of cultural acceptance and awareness, but also technology. Gone are the days of clunky, pink plastic rabbit vibrators and sex toys that feel like knockoff action figures. Today's toys are designed by sex educators, medical professionals, and some of the world’s greatest sexperts. They feature ultra-premium, surgical-grade silicone, robust Bluetooth connectivity, programmable vibration patterns, and multiple motors all designed to help you have a good time.
There’s never a bad time to invest in a little extra self-care. These are some of our favorite sex toys, vibrators, smart vibrators, personal wand massagers, and accessories, all of which we’ve personally tested. There’s something here for everyone, every gender, and every body. The language on these products isn’t always gender-inclusive, but we approached testing with a gender-inclusive mindset, testing these with a variety of different genitals, bodies, and partners.
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Updated May 2023: We added the Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 and updated links and prices.
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Which Toys Are for My Body?
Beyond P & VThe sex tech industry has conditioned us to think of toys in terms of male and female, penis and vagina, but that’s reductive, inaccurate, and contributes to a larger narrative about the relationship between genitals and gender. It’s unhelpful and I have a lot of feelings about it.
To that end, we opt to be as specific as possible and use anatomical terms to describe individual erogenous zones—and there are way more than just P and V.
The vulva is the exterior part of the vagina. It includes the labia majora, labia minora, the urethra, and the clitoris. The clitoris is the center of erogenous nerves in the vulva, and it’s actually much larger than just the exterior portion. Its internal structures extend down to either side of the vagina, which is where you’ll find the G-spot—the area stimulated by toys that curve toward the front of your body.
The phallus is what’s commonly referred to as the shaft of the penis, and it includes a couple different erogenous zones. The glans is the top of the phallus, usually referred to as the “head,” and the frenulum is a thin strip of connective tissue on the underside of the glans that can be particularly sensitive to targeted stimulation. Last but not least, the anus is, well … it's the butthole. The rectum is the interior portion that attaches to the anus. Both of these areas can be sensitive to internal and external stimulation.
For people assigned male at birth, there’s an additional erogenous zone here: the prostate or P-spot. This is a walnut-sized gland that lives between the internal structures of the penis and the rectum, and it can be reached by toys that curve toward the front of your body.
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Best Basic Vibrator
Maude DropThis tiny little vibrator packs a punch. It might be the most intense palm-sized vibrator we’ve ever tested. It has only three intensity settings, which is fewer than most toys on this list, but for the Maude Drop, it’s about quality over quantity. Each of its levels provides deep stimulating vibrations, but if you’re particularly sensitive you may want to be careful with the highest setting. It’s rumbly, powerful, and fast, which can be a nice way to end a session of solo use. It’s a great vibrator if you’re looking for something simple, discreet, and approachable.
Great for all genitals
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Best Luxury Suction Toy
Lelo Sona 2 CruiseSuction toys are life-changing if you've never used one before, and after testing dozens of them, I can say with certainty that the Sona 2 Cruise is the absolute best high-end suction toy on the market. It's one I kept reaching for even outside of testing hours. The body fits in my hand perfectly, the buttons are in places that make sense, and it has a variety of intensities well-suited to just about any preference.
The cruise part of the name refers to Lelo's Cruise Control technology–which makes the toy ramp up intensity when you press it hard against your body. It's a smart sex toy, and it's my number one recommendation for anyone looking to try something new.
Good for all bodies, targeted suction stimulation for the clitoris, frenulum, or nipples
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Best Wand Vibrator
Magic Wand MiniThe original Magic Wand was always a bit bulky. Plus, it plugs into the wall, and I've never had a sexual encounter that was improved by the presence of an extension cord. The Mini solves both of those problems. It's small, fits easily in one hand, and is not too heavy. It's rechargeable, so no need to fumble with cables while you're using it. Plus, it offers a generous 2.5-hour battery life on a single charge.
The broad head of the wand delivers really rumbly vibrations that start out pretty gentle and ramp all the way up to you-can-feel-it-in-your-teeth strength. There are two really cool things going on here, though. First, the rumbly vibrator head is sort of insulated from the rest of the wand, so it never makes your hand tired or numb from being vibrated. And second, the shape of the head means you can use the flat end or edges to stimulate broad areas of any erogenous zone, but you can use the edge for surprisingly precise targeted stimulation. Suffice it to say, the Magic Wand Mini is one of my new absolute faves.
Great for all genitals
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Best Angled Wand
Dame Com Wand VibratorDame's take on the classic magic wand (8/10, WIRED Recommends) introduces a new angle on an old favorite—literally. Most wands are straight, and nothing on the human body is straight, so using them to reach your most sensitive areas can be pretty awkward. The Com offers an elegant solution. The wand handle is angled ergonomically so the toy does all the reaching for you. Plus, at $125, it’s cheaper than a lot of premium wireless magic wands. The battery life could use some work though; you’ll only get about an hour out of a single charge.
Great for diffuse stimulation to the vulva, phallus, or sore muscles
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Best Stroker Toy
Tenga Crysta LeafI'm not a fan of sleeve-type toys. Most of the time they feel weird and awkward to use, even alone. But Tenga's Crysta Leaf changed my mind. This is the first sleeve or stroker toy that I actually want to use again and again. It’s made of a squishy and incredibly stretchy elastomer material, and when you’re using it you can still feel your (or someone else’s) hand applying pressure throughout the toy. It’s a very tactile experience, and if you’ve ever been turned off by hard plastic sleeves and strokers in the past, you might want to check this one out. You’ll need to get a high-quality water-based lube, though, and keep the toy clean. It attracts dust and cat hair like nobody’s business.
Great for phalluses
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An Approachable Glass Dildo
Kindred Black Violet Duchess Glass DildoKindred Black's sexual wellness catalog is filled with luxurious items like the Violet Duchess here, but this is one of my personal favorites. Glass sex toys have a long history. They're non-toxic and nonporous so they're easy to clean, and they're more durable than you might expect. The smooth body takes to a variety of lubes very well, making for a smooth and sensual experience whether you're alone or with a partner. It is, however, not flared, so it's not safe for anal use.
Another nice thing about glass sex toys is that they can make elegant decor when they're not in use.
Great for external use on all bodies, good for internal use with vulvas, not safe for anal
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A Functional Work of Art
Kindred Black Brancusi Piccino Obsidian PhallusObsidian is such a gorgeous material, but I'd never seen a sex toy made from it before this one from Brancusi Piccino. It's so black it seems to soak up the light around it, but in the right lighting you can see silvery threads inside from minerals trapped millions of years ago when the volcanic glass was first formed and cooling. It seems like a weird choice for a sex toy, and this one is so beautiful that it almost feels like it belongs on a pedestal more than it belongs on your nightstand. But rest assured, this is a very functional work of art.
The smooth volcanic glass body takes lube just as well as any glass toy, but it's a bit thick so make sure you go slowly. Since it's shaped like a phallus, it has a flared base that makes it safe for anal use, but I'd still advise caution because glass can get extremely slick with silicone or water-based lubes. Being nonporous, cleaning and disinfecting is super easy, it's just a matter of thoroughly washing with hand or dish soap.
Good for all bodies, internal and external use. Flared base makes it safe for anal use, but be careful because it can get slippery
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Discreet and Stylish
Crave Vesper VibratorSex toys are often relegated to closets, drawers, and hidden places to keep them away from prying eyes. Keep it secret, keep it safe; Gandalf knew what he was talking about. This toy is something different, though. It’s a thing you wear, not hide—like the Evenstar. The Vesper, from Crave, is a slender, powerful vibrator that pulls double duty as a bold statement necklace.
Even if you don’t wear it out and about, it’s a remarkably capable little vibe. It has just two vibration modes (steady and pulse), but it is shockingly powerful for such a tiny thing, and it is whisper quiet. The pointed shape makes it a good choice for targeted stimulation, and it’s powerful enough that you’ll feel its vibrations deep in your body. Don’t put it in your body though. Vesper is strictly an external-use-only kind of toy. It’s bold and discreet, stylish and subtle. But above all, it’s a functional addition to anyone’s collection.
Great for targeted stimulation on the clitoris, nipples, or frenulum
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Pocket-Sized and Approachable
Dame Pom Flexible VibratorJust look at this little thing! It's cute and friendly. Pom is one of my favorites from Dame Products (8/10, WIRED Recommends) and is a pocket-sized, waterproof vibrator with five vibration patterns, five intensity settings, and a soft squishy body meant to contour to a wide variety of erogenous zones. The vibrations resonate throughout the toy, but they’re concentrated at the tip. So you get targeted and broader stimulation all in one toy. Experimenting with the intensities, vibration modes, and even just how you touch it to your (or someone else’s) body can be a lot of fun.
Pom’s intuitive, ergonomic shape also makes it really easy to use in the heat of the moment. The button layout is simple and straightforward. You can easily feel which button is which without looking (a huge plus), so you can rapidly switch between modes and intensities.
Great for all genitals
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Cute and Cuddly
Tenga Iroha KushiThis thing is so cute. I love a sex toy that can double as adorable home decor. The Iroha+ Kushi is shaped like a little hedgehog and features multiple vibration intensities and patterns (plus a charging base and cover to protect it from dust). It’s made from silicone and has a gel underneath, so it’s very soft and squishy. The ridges along its back allow for fun and varied sensations, regardless of the genitals you’re using it with. It’s a unique approach to sex toy design, and I’m a big fan. This little guy has a forever home on my nightstand.
Great for all genitals
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App Powered
MysteryVibe Crescendo Flexible Vibrator + AppSex toys are getting more technologically sophisticated every year. Crescendo from MysteryVibe is a smart vibrator with an app you can use to both control the toy and create and customize your own vibration patterns using its six (!) internal motors and 16 (!!) intensity settings. It’s also flexible; you can bend it in any direction to create a shape that works for your body or someone else’s. Not to mention, it’s waterproof.
Great for vulvas and phalluses
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Flexible Fun
Unbound BenderThe Bender is unique because it’s so flexible. You can shape it to fit your body for ideal external stimulation. It’s waterproof, and while the vibrations aren’t as powerful as a wand-style vibrator, they’re buzzy enough to make an impact. It’s also super quiet, even at its highest setting.
Best for vulvas and phalluses
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Slow Build
Lelo SilaUpon first use, the Sila irked me. The gentle vibrations and soft suction were teasing, and not in a good way—or so I thought. I soldiered on, living the tough life of a product reviewer, and eventually I was blown away. The toy has eight quiet settings, and even the highest is markedly less intense than what you may be used to. That’s intentional. Sila offers a slow buildup with a big payoff. The wide mouth focuses more on surrounding erogenous zones than similar sex toys, leading to a deeper and longer-lasting orgasm. Use it with lube (or in the bath) for solo sex or during foreplay with a partner. The wait will be worthwhile.
Great for vulvas
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Invest in Versatility
Smile Makers Poet Suction ToyEvery body is different, and everyone’s preferences are different. Unlike most other suction toys, the Poet can customize one step farther. Usually, a suction toy’s opening is static. However, the Poet comes with three interchangeable mouths, so it’s easy to find the perfect fit. Changing the size of the opening can also affect the stimulation it provides. A bigger opening offers a more diffuse, slightly weaker air pulse, while the smaller mouths intensify the stimulation quite a bit. On top of that, the Poet features adjustable intensity levels and stimulation patterns. It’s also waterproof, which makes it a killer all-around bedside-table-companion.
Great for vulvas and clitoral stimulation
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Best for Two
Satisfyer Curvy 3+Satisfyer’s Curvy lineup has been a personal favorite for a while, but the latest iteration, the Curvy 3+, is one of the best toys I’ve tested. It’s a dual-use vibrator and air-pulse stimulator. The air-pulse end provides steady, slow, but powerful suction, while the other end is where you’ll feel the vibrations most acutely. They’re pretty low-intensity even at the highest settings, which can be a good thing. It’s best to use this toy with a partner, with a person enjoying each end.
Good for the clitoris, frenulum, and external play
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Double the Fun
Lelo Enigma Vibrator & Air Pulse ToyLelo’s Enigma is a weird toy. It looks like a ship from Star Trek, or a curvy sculpture you’d see in a museum gift shop. Like the Rabbit vibrator before it, the Enigma is designed to stimulate both the clitoris and the G-spot. But instead of relying solely on vibration, the Enigma’s clitoral stimulation arm contains a powerful air pulse mechanism for providing suction that imitates the sensation of receiving oral sex. The bigger, rounder end of the toy is where the vibration motor lives. Its body is flexible enough that you can use just one end or the other at a time, but if you use them together, it’s an intense experience. Even going slow, the Enigma fires you off into space at warp speed—in a good way. That said, the vibration end is a bit thick at its widest point, so if you’re not comfortable with large diameter toys, take it slow and easy. Use lots of lube.
Best for G-spot and clitoral stimulation
