When you realize you’re into anal play—or at least that you’re curious about it—you really should own some butt plugs. These versatile sex toys can be used on their own or combined with masturbation, oral sex, or other toys. They can serve as foreplay for anal sex, but using them can be a deeply pleasurable experience even without that goal in mind.
There are a few key qualities to look for in a butt plug. It should have a flared base (i.e. a base that is wider than the widest part of the plug) so that it doesn’t get stuck inside you—because no one wants to explain that at the emergency room. Plugs should also have a tapered tip, to make the insertion process as comfortable and easy as possible. You should also think about material—silicone is often best for beginners because it’s soft and squishy, but many people like the firmer pressure provided by plugs made of glass or metal.
And of course, don’t forget the lube! Some kind of lubrication is non-negotiable for anal play, both for safety reasons and for comfort reasons. Silicone-based lubes last the longest, but can stain your sheets and shouldn’t be used with silicone toys; water-based lubes, on the other hand, may need to be reapplied more often but can be used with any toy material.
Ready to try your first butt plug (or fifth, or fifteenth)? Here are some of our faves to incorporate into your sex life. Then, you can give anal beads a try.
The Best Beginner Butt Plug: Tantus Little Flirt
Materials: Silicone
This silicone toy has pretty much every quality a beginner-friendly plug should have: it’s slim (about as wide as a finger), has a tapered tip for easier insertion, and has a comfortable base that won’t dig into your cheeks. It’s affordable, too, so if you discover you’re not that into anal play, you won’t have wasted a ton of cash.
Pros: Good size and shape for beginners; comfortably curved base; easy to clean; affordable
Cons: Can’t be used with silicone-based lubes; not particularly curved to hit the prostate
The Best Butt Plug for Any Body: Tantus Neo
Materials: Silicone
This simple anal plug has broad appeal because of its easy insertion: It’s tapered and slim enough to work for many beginners (provided you go slow and maybe warm up with a finger or two beforehand), but still big enough to satisfy more experienced users. The curved base is comfy as hell, and so is the super-smooth silicone surface of the plug itself. If you’re not sure what plug to get, this is an excellent pick for just about anyone.
Pros: Tapered tip for easier insertion; comfortably curved base; easy to clean; affordable
Cons: Can’t be used with silicone-based lubes; may be too large for some users; not particularly curved to hit the prostate
The Best Butt Plug Set: B-Vibe Anal Training and Education Set
Materials: Silicone
Battery Life: About 1 hour