After a decade of frequent drinking, I finally decided to commit to Dry January in 2022. I wanted to interrupt my near-daily beer habit, sleep better, lose bloat, improve my workouts, wake up fresh, and just conquer a new challenge.
I succeeded — completing Annie Grace's 30-day live Alcohol Experiment and banking my longest alcohol-free streak since, well, probably getting mono in college. It wasn't easy, per se, but it wasn't as daunting as I feared, either. At times, it was quite rewarding and even fun.
But my success wasn't down to luck or grit or stellar self-control. I credit it to the systems I had in place before I began. Here's my advice for first-time teetotalers in 2023.
Identify your why
If you're only doing Dry January because a friend asked you to or as punishment for over-indulging over the holidays, you're going to have a hard time sticking to it once your friend gives up and your hangover wears off.
Instead, drill down on your "why" before getting started, Nick Allen, CEO of the mindful-drinking app Sunnyside, writes on the company's website. If it's "I hate hangovers," ask yourself why again. If it's "I value productivity," ask yourself why again, and so on.
You can also write down what you hope to gain: Deeper connection to loved ones? The confidence of knowing you can keep a commitment to yourself? A sharper mind at work? A chance to try new activities instead of the default "let's get drinks?"
For me, a big selling point was the chance to simply experience life — from dinners out to movie nights in — without booze. If after a month I decided those events were better with alcohol, there was always February.
Find a community
The Alcohol Experiment included free daily videos and journal prompts, and, for about $50, access to an online community of people starting the experiment at the same time.
This community and the program's structure were my secret weapons: Rather than white-knuckling my way through the month feeling deprived, the experiment asks you to dive into the alcohol-free lifestyle with excitement and curiosity.
You learn about the science of addiction in a shame-free space, confront whether alcohol is really giving you what it promises, and work out triggers from ski vacations to bad days at work with other experimenters in real-time.
There are all kinds of similar programs, including Sober Sis's 21-day reset and Club Soda, and apps like "Try Dry" to support your experience. Many are free.
Be vocal about your commitment
I declared my commitment to my partner, friends, family, and coworkers. I posted about my favorite alcohol-free beers on Instagram, and pitched story after story about Dry January.
Some research shows that people who post more about their goals on social media are more likely to accomplish them, though it's unclear if that's because they only post achievable goals or if the posting holds them accountable.
For me, it was the latter. I knew If I was just giving a sober month a shot in my own head, I would have let myself off the hook. But I had too much pride to even consider it when so many others were on board.
Try out alternatives
Alcohol-free drinks were instrumental in my success. There are countless surprisingly satisfying zero-proof beers you can find on the online marketplace Better Rhodes, in an alcohol-free shop, or even in regular old bars. Most, I found, at least carry Heineken 0.
These beers also tend to be much lower in calories — and far less likely to leave you craving three more since they lack alcohol's addictive qualities — than boozy brews.
With these alternatives, you can keep the rituals you like around booze — sipping while cooking, unwinding with coworkers, watching a game — without the hangover.
Alternative activities can be key too.
Allen of Sunnyside recommends making plans for Saturday morning — a hike, yoga class, or early coffee with a friend — if you're one of the many tempted on Friday nights.
"Shifting the reward center in your mind from, 'I'm going to drink in order to relax' to 'I know I've got this thing that I'm really forward to tomorrow morning that I don't wanna ruin by drinking tonight' makes a really big difference," he told me.
Be patient as your body adjusts
If you've been drinking regularly for years, the touted delights of sobriety — boundless energy, presence, joy — aren't going to set in immediately. You may have trouble sleeping as your body adjusts to unwinding with a depressant, feel famished as your body makes up for the alcohol calories lost, and get cranky or sad as you stop numbing your emotions.
You may even gain weight, due in part to the way the body metabolizes alcohol differently than food.
Be patient. Alcohol can stay in your system for weeks, according to the Cleveland Clinic. Once your body finds some equilibrium, it's worth it.
(Side note: If you're worried you may be physically addicted to alcohol, withdrawal can be dangerous and requires medical support.)
Don't let a slip-up derail your entire month
Grace calls an unplanned drinking moment a "data point" from which to learn, and discourages people from feeling like they have to start again at "day 1." Quitting drinking, she says, "is not a linear process."
So if you do throw a few back, she recommends getting curious, not judge-y. What triggered you to drink? Did it feel and taste as good as you anticipated? Was it worth it the next day? Journal about it, and make a more informed decision next time.
And keep in mind there are benefits to drinking less. Simply reducing your drink has benefits, research shows, and Sunnyside has found doing so can set you up to maintain a more moderate lifestyle in February and beyond.
"Think of this as a lifetime investment in your health," Allen said. "If you take that philosophy, then one drink in January doesn't feel like as much of a big deal."