Woman who asked husband for an open relationship to save their marriage accuses HIM of cheating after he finds a date first - but friend accuses her of 'reaping what she sows'
- Unnamed woman, from US, told husband she wanted to try an open relationship
- When he found a date and she didn't, the woman accused him of cheating
- She turned to friends for support but they said she's 'reaping what she sowed'
A woman who persuaded her husband to try an open relationship in a bid to save their rocky marriage has since accused him of cheating after he found a date before she did.
The unnamed wife, who is believed to be from the US, proposed the idea to her other half, who at first was reluctant, but eventually came round to the idea in the hope it'd save their relationship.
However, while he quickly found himself a date, she struggled and was left devastated. Yet when she turned to friends for a sympathetic ear, they instead accused her of 'reaping what she sowed' after asking for an open relationship in the first place.
Taking to Reddit, the woman's friend penned: 'The timing was off, obviously, but she had thought about it a lot and she said it was the only way for her relationship with him to survive because she loved him dearly but felt unfulfilled.
An unnamed woman, who is believed to be from the US, persuaded her partner to try an open relationship in a bid to save their rocky marriage - but has since accused her husband of cheating after he found a date before she did. Pictured, stock image
'He hesitantly agreed because he didn't want to lose her. When I asked him about it, he seemed very much not thrilled about the whole thing.
She went on to explain that during lockdown, the pair seemed to be getting on better than ever before, so he thought the idea had passed.
Despite being shocked when his wife brought it back up three months ago, the pair sat down and laid down the rules when it came to a polyamorous relationship.
The friend said that shortly after, the woman phoned her in tears saying her husband had cheated on her.
She penned: 'She tells me she tried calling him all day but he said he had a "date" and hasn't come home yet. I asked her "but wasn't that sort of okay between you two?"
'She sobbingly tells me that yes, that was sort of the deal but that she hadn't been able to go on a single date with a guy yet because she was so busy with work being back on now and that he just went ahead with his date as if she meant nothing.'
When the devastated woman wanted a sympathetic ear from friends, they accused her of 'reaping what she sowed' after asking for an open relationship in the first place. Pictured, the initial post
'He hadn't disclosed any details to her, which as far as I know was part of their deal - that they didn't want to know any details, and that she felt like he was ridiculing her.
'I didn't really know what to say and just told her, 'well, honey, I think you just reaped what you sowed, honestly'.
The friend went on to say how the woman was 'furious' at her for not being understanding - but says she feels that she's 'just upset that her husband is doing what she proposed in the first place.'
It wasn't long before people took to the comments section to take sides with the friend, reassuring her that she has done nothing wrong.
'People always seem to be down for open relationships until they remember their partner can have an open relationship too,' commented one, while a second penned: 'Yep, that was my ex husband. Was all cool for it, until I actually started getting more interest from men than he was getting from women (I said to him that if he wasn't being faithful, neither should I have to be).
Suddenly the open relationship wasn't a good idea any more.'
Taking to the comments section, one person penned: 'People always seem to be down for open relationships until they remember their partner can have an open relationship too' (pictured)
A third wrote: 'Soooo NTA my partner and I are open and it only works because we are so satisfied with each other that the open part is an option.
Elsewhere, a fourth added: 'Honestly just sounds like she wanted to have sex with whoever she wanted but didn't want him to have sex with anyone else. Didn't want to lose him by cheating so it became an "open relationship". smh. Ridiculous.'
Meanwhile, another person who is in an open relationship notes that the notion rarely 'saves' a relationshi- and says it 'adds waaaaaay more complexities.'
They continued: 'This girl asked for trouble and it came knocking and she has the audacity to be surprised.
OP you’re totally fine here. Being a good friend means calling out people on their bulls**t.'
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