Out of Love: Our sex lives improved on the verge of separation

My husband and I have been distraught over our marital life for over two years now. Once a happy couple and all we now do is fight and argue over the tiniest of matters that hold no relevance to our bond. I have always been quite fond of my husband ever since I took notice of him across the room at my nephew’s birthday party. He was charming, adventurous and funny. He sure knew how to make me laugh! And as soon as we started dating, we had an amazing relationship and sex life. We both loved freaky stuff that helped us pleasure each other. It was simply wonderful!
But as we rode into our marriage, we started disconnecting differently. All we both did was work, watch TV or be engrossed in our phones. We started finding faults within each other like never before. Our sex life was also experiencing a drastic change. We hardly touched each other, and even kisses each other sometimes just for the sake of it. The sexual adventures we had, all just suddenly stopped. Our marriage was at a standstill for more than a year when we realised it wasn’t going to work out.

I loved him, and I know he does too. But again, love isn’t enough to support a marriage. The thing that affected us most was that our sex life just went down the drain. It was affecting me too much now that there was no physical connection between us. It had been more than a year since I had sex and that wasn’t normal. So we came to a conclusion and decided that we both needed to divorce each other. And so, we filed for our separation. Tears welled up in my eyes but I knew this was for the best.
However, ever since we broke the news of divorce to each other, my husband started acting more affectionately toward me. I was unintentionally doing the same because the craving to make love to him grew even more. I was baffled and even felt absurd. We were on the verge of separating and here we were acting like horny teenagers all over again. We were angry with each other all the time but tried directing that anger to sex. We had fierce sex that was intense and passionate. And miraculously, we slowly started connecting. We were having fun in our sex lives like never before and it was the first time I felt refreshed in our marriage. I could never fathom how we connected after such a long time in our marriage, and that too when we were about to get divorced.

We reconsidered our decision and honestly, we have never been happier. We love the fact that we both tried one last time, even if the reason wasn’t concrete enough.

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