This Mumbai mom left the hectic city for an unhurried pace of life during the pandemic

With stints in Chandigarh and Goa, the brand advisor recalls why a location change proved invaluable for her family, especially her nine-year-old

Covid19 parenting pandemic

Sometime in March last year, as the pandemic unleashed its fury all around, there seemed to be no choice left but to retreat inside—become insular and cut away from everything and everyone that was once essential and dear to us.

In Mumbai, as lockdowns restrictions were announced, our collective world began to change. Suddenly, we had to play many roles at the same time—parents, teachers, professionals, housekeepers and cooks. My husband's corporate job and my brand advisory work now took place under the same roof as my daughter's virtual school. Things became pretty hard and we struggled to find an acceptable routine. Our nine-year old Jiya became isolated and lonely and hungered for human contact. Living in a bungalow didn't seem like a great idea after all! We trudged along, but Jiya remained our focus—her mental wellbeing became a priority and we started plotting our escape from the city. 

Touch down

Opportunity soon presented itself when flights reopened towards the end of May last year. We got onto the first flight out to Chandigarh. Armed with masks, sanitisers and a hazmat suit for airport dressing, it wasn't as uneventful as it sounds, but amidst chaos and uncertainty we managed to reach our family farmhouse on the outskirts of Chandigarh for our compulsory quarantine

And what a sight it was for sore eyes! Acres and acres of green gardens, blossoming trees and a deliciously cool pool awaited us. Add to that the smells and sound of the first rain of the season and we were in heaven. Jiya ran in the gardens, played with the farm hands, made clay pots and went on long drives with us in the neighbourhood. We huddled close and watched—cows being milked, fields being harvested and during our village walks even witnessed food being cooked on stoves using bio-gas. 

It was the best kind of education that we could have given her. She learnt about different varieties of trees and plants, watched the food chain play out in front of her eyes and learnt about the importance of insects in agriculture. 

Family affair

Three weeks later, post our quarantine, we went to live at our family home in Chandigarh. Once Jiya got through the initial hurdles of learning to live with three generations of family, she discovered a new, unhurried pace of living never known to her earlier. Fifteen-minute school breaks now meant two rounds on her cycle around the park outside our home. Summer afternoons were spent listening to mythological stories from her grandmother and early morning routines involved assisting my father in tending to his micro green garden. Hectic playdates gave way to simpler times spent running around the garden with her cousins and playing with the water hose. There were many lessons to be learnt, from empathy to sharing to learning to appreciate an alternate point of view. It provided her with immense scope to evolve and grow.

As things settled down around us, we started to explore our surroundings. Chandigarh has the unique advantage of being located in the foothills of the Himalayas. Nature and the outdoors became a huge part of our lives. From cycling through isolated trails to hiking in the hills to picnicking in the woods, we embraced nature in all its glory. Jiya tried her hand at golf and started enjoying lessons with her dad twice a week. And through it all, I saw my child blossom—become stronger, self-assured and even happier. While on one hand, technology became a critical tool in connecting her to school and her friends back home, its role as entertainment had greatly diminished.

Chasing sunsets

After exploring the quieter parts of Himachal closer to home, as winter approached, we decided to shift our base to Goa for a few months. The pandemic had shown us a new way of working, studying and staying connected while being nomadic. In Goa life was blissful. We stayed at our friend's stunning forested homestay, Capella. Other than our host (Ayesha), Jiya made friends with all her pets as well—the lazy but lovely dog (Elsa) and the three cats (Muffin, Simba and Lily). From being a child who would be wary of animals, she became inseparable from Muffin and they spent many afternoons together on the swing in the courtyard, silently conversing. I began to witness a different kind of little girl emerge—one at peace with herself. Zal, Ayesha's son, taught Jiya to be comfortable with insects and even reptiles. They chatted about constellations and galaxies and she developed a new-found appreciation for the universe.

Despite the disruption of everyday life that the pandemic had forced upon us, Jiya seemed to be blossoming—she was now much more independent, confident and at ease. She cooked in the kitchen, chatted with other guests at Capella and formed her own little community. It was an added advantage to be able to jump into the pool during school break! Weekends were spent on the beach—surfing, making sand castles and witnessing breathtaking sunsets. The idea of orange and blue becoming purple would visually pan out in front of her eyes and she would squeal in delight every time the sun went down! 

Slowly, as Goa began opening up again, we started to selectively meet other friends with children who had also made Goa their home temporarily. From trips to the Museum of Goa to Fado concerts, our life from a buzzing metropolis to India's smallest state had developed a gentle rhythm of its own. Gym class in Mumbai was replaced by aerial dancing in an open air pavilion on a hill and her school holidays were spent accompanying me to my site where Jiya would spend hours chatting and exchanging ideas with artists like Yaazd Contractor.

These days, as we plan our way forward, I look back to these nomadic months and reminiscence over the year gone by, and I can't thank God enough for the little blessings he sent our way. 

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