The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: The believers with the most complete eemaan are those with the best character, who have the best conduct and are humble and who easily get along and are easy to get along with and there is no good in one who neither gets along or isn’t gotten along with. (At-Tabaraani – hasanahu Al-Albaani, Silsilatul-Ahaadeeth As-Saheehah #751, pp. 389) 
Umar bin Hafs said: “Umar bin Abdul-’Aziz said to me,

‘If you hear a word from a Muslim, then do not think evil of its meaning, as long as you could find a good explanation for it.’” 
Surely he who loves people to treat him kindly, should treat them the same way he wishes they would treat him. Moreover, when one thinks of others the same way he thinks of himself, he will realise his own shortcomings and faults and will be compelled to correct them. 
Bakr bin Muhammad bin Abdullah said: “If you witness your brethren being generous and honouring you, then say to yourself, this is a virtue that they have earned. If you see them fall into a shortcoming, then say to yourself, this is due to an error I have committed.” 
Abdullah bin Zaid al-Jarni said: “If a shortcoming (that a brother of yours fell into) reaches you, try hard to find a good explanation for it. Otherwise, if you do not find a good explanation, say to yourself that maybe, my brother has an excuse I am not aware of.” 
It should be remembered that this life is full of shortcomings and that friends make mistakes sometimes, either by committing sin or by erring with their friends and brothers. When a friend of yours commits a sin and insists on it, it is incumbent on you to advise him softly so that he refrains from the sin, returns to correctness and becomes aright and pious again. Soft admonishment using kind words and reminding one of Allah are all basis of good advice. 
Sufyan Ath-Thauri said: “I asked S’ad bin Kudam, ‘Do you like that someone gives you a present consisting of errors?’ He said, ‘Yes if it is coming from someone who is advising, but not from someone whose purpose is to admonish.’” When Abu Dardaa (radiallahu ‘anhu) passed by a man who was being admonished by others because he committed a sin, he asked them: “If you found this fellow in a well, would you rescue him from it?” they said, “Yes.” Abu Darda (radiallahu ‘anhu) said, “then do not admonish him and praise Allah that He has saved you from his sin.” They asked, “Should we hate him?” He said, “No. Hate his sin and if he abandons it, he again becomes my brother.” 
Moreover it was reported about two brothers from our Salaf that one of them abandoned the path of righteousness and his brother was asked if he would shun him. He replied: “What he needs from me the most, now that he has fallen into sin, is that I take his hand, advise him softly and invoke Allah that he returns to the way he was before.” 
To continue we mention here a good statement by Imam Abu Haatim: “The wise person is required to use good conduct with people to abandon ill manners. Verily, good mannerism dissolves errors, just as the sun dissolves ice, while ill conduct spoils the deeds, just as vinegar spoils honey. One might have many aspects of good mannerism mixed with some ill behaviour, but the little ill behaviour spoils his otherwise substantial good mannerism.” 
Good mannerism requires forbearance and graciousness when one has to confront people or is confronted in public. Once when ‘Ali Ibn Al-Husain entered a masjid, a man cursed him, prompting the people to want to punish him. ‘Ali asked them to leave the man alone and said to him: “What Allah has covered from you of my errors is more than what has been uncovered! Is there anything I could help you with?” That man felt ashamed, and ‘Ali gave him a robe he had and a thousand dirhams. The man used to describe ‘Ali bin Al-Husain, the son of Husain (radiallahu ‘anhu) the grandson of the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam), by saying, ‘This is a descendant of the Prophets (‘alaihimus salaam)! 
Habib al-Jallab said: “I asked Ibn al-Mubarak, ‘What is the best gift that was given to mankind?’ He said, ‘A wise mind.’ I said, ‘If one did not have that?’ He said, ‘Good conduct’. I said, ‘And if one did not have that?’ He said, ‘An advising friend whom he seeks his council.’ I asked, ‘If one did not have that?’ H said, ‘Long periods of silence.’ I asked, ‘If one did not have even that?’ He said, ‘Then a swift death!’” 
Another good indication of the salaf’s mannerism is that when they wanted to advise someone, they would do it in confidence. One of our salaf one said: “When someone advises his friend in confidence, it will be an advice, but if he advises him in public, he will have exposed him.” 
Furthermore, Al-Fudhail bin ‘Iyaad said, while explaining the difference between advising and publicly exposing others: “The believer advises in confidence, while the wicked exposes and shames.” 
Abu Dardaa (radiallahu ‘anhu) said: “It is better to advise your friend than severing relations with him, for no one can take the place of your friend if you lose him. Be generous and lenient with your friend, and do not allow an envious person to come in between you and him, for in this case, your friend might die tomorrow and you grieve for him. However, how could you grieve for him after he dies when you have shunned him when he was still alive?” 
Yahya bin Mu’adh explains the role a good friend plays in his friend’s life: 
“Your brother is he who makes you aware of your errors, and your friend is he who warns you against sinning.” 
Al-Khalil bin Ahmed, a scholar of the Arabic language, teaches us the types of people and the benefit we could present to them: “Men are four types. There is a man who knows, but is not aware that he knows; this type is unaware and you need to alert him. There is a man who does not know and knows that he does not know; this type is ignorant and you should teach him. There is a man who knows and knows that he knows; this type is a scholar, so learn from him. There is a man who does not know, but is unaware that he does not know; this type is wicked so beware of him.”

The estrangement of Islam
Brothers in faith! We notice these days that the one who adheres to his religion, maintains the commandments of Allah and follows the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, appears very abnormal and strange, and many people are shocked by his appearance and his words. Not only that, some would actually dispraise and blame him, saying that he is not upon the correct path, and that he is an extremist. 
This situation saddens the believer, but he must know that this is the way of the ways of Allah, by which He tests the believers, to differentiate the truthful from the liars.
By adhering to the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, and following his guidance, you will be tested and face many difficulties, but if you persevere you will have great reward in the Hereafter. 
Allah says, which means, “So why were there not among the generations before you those of enduring discrimination forbidding corruption on earth – except a few of those We saved from among them? But those who wronged pursued what luxury they were given therein, and they were criminals.” (Hud: 116)
It is a call from Allah to the people that they should have a group amongst them who enjoin good and forbid evil when people become corrupted, and such people are the ones who will be saved from the punishment of Allah in this life and the Hereafter. But who are these people? What are their descriptions?
They are the strangers, who rectify what people ruin. They are the ones who the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, mentioned in different Ahaadith, as when he said: “Islam started as a stranger (a few people believing in it) and it will eventually go back to being a stranger as it started (a few people adhering to it), so Toobaa for the strangers”. The companions, may Allah be pleased with them, asked who these strangers were, so the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said: “They are those who maintain themselves upon righteousness when people become corrupt.” (Ahmad). (Toobaa is a tree in Paradise which takes a person riding on horseback one hundred years to pass its shade).
In another narration ‘Abdullaah Ibn Mas’ood, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said while we were with him, “Islam started as a stranger and it will eventually go back to being a stranger as it started, so Toobaa for the strangers”. The companions, may Allah be pleased with them, asked, ‘Who are these strangers?’, the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said: “They are individuals from different tribes.” (Ahmad & Ibn Maajah).  
‘Abdullaah Ibn ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said while we were with him, “Toobaa to the strangers” the companions asked, ‘Who are these strangers?’, the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said: “They are righteous people amongst a great number of evil people; those who disobey them (when they invite them to righteousness) are greater than those who obey them” (Ahmad).  
In another narration the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said: “Islam started as a stranger and it will eventually go back to being a stranger as it started, so Toobaa to the strangers”. The companions, may Allah be pleased with them, asked, ‘Who are these strangers?’. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said: “They are those who revive my Sunnah and teach it to people”.
How many people fit the descriptions of the stranger which were mentioned by the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, in the different narrations? How many people have rectified themselves when people have gone corrupt? How many people rectify what others ruin? How many people today revive the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam? How many people today spread the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, and teach it to others?
The above are the strangers who were praised, and because they are few in number they have been called strangers, because the majority of people have characteristics other than theirs. Muslims are strangers between people. Devoted believers are strangers between Muslims. Scholars are strangers between believers. The followers of Sunnah are strangers between them as well.
Those who call people to the Sunnah and persevere through the harm caused by those who oppose them are the most estranged. But these are truly the people of Allah, and should not feel estrangement, because the majority of people are like Allah has described them. Allah says, which means, “And if you obey most of those upon the earth, they will mislead you from the way of Allah. They follow not except assumption, and they are not but falsifying.” (Al-An’aam: 116).
The strangers feel no alienation in their estrangement but are rather cheerful, because their ally is Allah, His Messenger and the believers, even if most people become his enemies and desert him. Al-Hasan, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: “The believer in this life is like a stranger who does not worry about its humility, and does not compete to gain honour in it. His situation is different from that of people’s. People are not disturbed by him, but he exhausts himself (by continuously blaming himself and accounting himself)”.
Among the characteristics of these strangers, whom the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, praised, is that they adhere to the Sunnah when people abandon it, and they abandon what people innovate even if it is commonly known and practised among people. They fulfil Tawheed, even if most people do not. They abandon affiliation with other than Allah and His messengers; they are affiliated to Allah by their servitude to Him and to the Messenger by following his Sunnah. Indeed, it is as though they are holding onto lit charcoal, and many people will accuse them, and consider them abnormal and deviant.
Yes they are strangers, and why would they not be considered so when they are one group distinct from 72 other groups. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, informed us that the Jews got divided into 71 sects, and the Christians got divided into 72 sects and that this nation will divide into 73 – of which 72 sects will go to the Fire and one in Paradise.
That is why a sincere Muslim who adheres to Sunnah in our time gets the reward of 50 of the companions, as narrated by Abu Tha’labah that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said:  “You have before you days which will require patience (while practising your religion). Patience during these days is as difficult as holding onto a lit charcoal, the reward for those who practise is equal to the reward of 50 people doing the same deed” I said, ‘O Messenger of Allah! Fifty people from their time?’ the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said: “Fifty people from you.” (Tirmithi).
If a believer, who is guided by Allah, wants to take this road, then let him be ready to be dispraised and mocked by the ignorant people and innovators, and their warning people against him. He will be a stranger in his religion because their (understanding and practice of the) religion has become corrupt as well as their beliefs. His prayers will appear strange because the people’s prayers are improperly performed.
He is a stranger in his path because they are upon the corrupt path of misguidance. He will be a stranger in all his affairs of this life and the Hereafter. He will not find supporters or helpers, as he will be literate amongst ignorant people; a person following the Sunnah amongst innovators; a person inviting to Allah and His Messenger between people who follow their desires and innovations. He will be forbidding evil between people who consider good as evil and evil as good.
Dear brother! Know that people in this life are all strangers, and that this life is not a lasting one, nor is it the life for which they were created. ‘Abdullaah Ibn ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said to him, “Be in this life as though you are a stranger or a person who is passing by.” (Bukhari and Muslim).
The estrangement of Islam from the rest of the world has returned today as the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said. It is an estrangement that has occurred after a long period of shortcomings and abandonment within the Ummah. A religion which filled earth with justice, mercy and happiness has become a rejected stranger. We testify that what the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, came with is the truth, and we become more certain of that everyday.
O Muslims! The estrangement of the religion that has appeared today is the result of the ignorance of many Muslims regarding the simplest issues in religion, like prayer for example. This becomes clear when you see many people rejecting the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam.
It is evident in the Muslim communities dissolving in the morals, values and principles of the western communities and their traditions. You see it in the spread of sins and shameless disobedience committed openly by some Muslims. You see it in the Muslims’ appearance’s resemblance to the disbelievers, and admiration and imitation of the enemies of Allah and being attached to them. You see it in many Muslims giving preference to this life over the Hereafter, ignoring that this could result in the anger of Allah.
If you want to know the level of estrangement the believer feels and the grief he suffers while he is between his own people and family, ask a stranger who has left his family, loved ones and hometown, then he passed by a town were no one knows him, so its people took his money away, beat and humiliated him, and he could not find anyone to help him or support him. How would he feel? Wouldn’t he stay awake while people are asleep? Would he stop crying while they are laughing?
You should see him supplicating to Allah with his eyes full of tears, complaining of his estrangement and grief; complaining about his weakness and incapability; complaining about his humiliation. You will always find him absent-minded, not knowing what to do. He has no one to help him except Allah. This is the condition of a stranger. If you ask someone who has experienced this himself, your heart would break for him. This is estrangement regarding this life, how would the estrangement in religion be?
O stranger! These words came to you from another stranger who is suffering as you are. One’s heart breaks when he sees the situation of our nation today. He almost doubts himself and feels as though he would go mad from what he sees of the great spread of corruption and the small number of those whom Allah preserved.
One almost gives up if it was not for the reminder of Allah, Allah says, which means, “And keep yourself patient (by being) with those who call upon their Lord in the morning and the evening seeking His countenance. And let not your eyes pass beyond them, desiring adornments of the worldly life, and do not obey one whose heart We have made heedless of Our remembrance and who follows his desire and whose affair is ever (in) neglect.” (Al-Kahf: 28) 
After this, the Hadith which is narrated by Al-Miqdaad Ibn al-Aswad, may Allah be pleased with him, brings a bright hope where the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said, “There will not remain a house on earth, made of clay or wool, but Allah will make Islam go into it, with which He will honour with those who accept Islam, or humiliate those who reject it” (Ibn Hibbaan).
The promise of Allah is coming, His words will overwhelm, and He will grant victory to His religion although the disbelievers hate it.