Thread: Anyone who's going through a breakup

You're not alone. Went out with my ex for 3 years. Some relationships here were shorter--some longer--but remember we're all here for each other. Know it's tough but everything's gonna be alright. Feel free to get anything off your chest, I'm all ears

Was with my ex for 4.5 years. Just broke up 1.5 weeks ago. At the 3 year mark I thought we were for sure going to get married and have kids and then she dropped a “I don’t know if I ever want to get married or have kids”. Instead of calling her out and finding out if she was for real I slowly started to withdrawal from the relationship. Not only that she was already a lefty but she became a huge SJW BLM type of person and that didn’t match with my more traditional conservative views. I also noticed she started to bash her dad more and more and made comparisons to how I was “treating” her and how her dad “mistreated” her mom.

Needless to say she was my first true love and it sucks that it came to an end. I’ve wanted to reach out to her everyday post separation. One thing I did was write a letter on what I would say to her if I wanted her back etc with no intention of giving it to scratch that itch.

First few days were absolute hell and I barely slept and ate, each day gets a tiny tiny bit better.

It was a mutual separation and I thought I was ready for it but I guess you truly never are. Personally outside looking in it appears like the breakup is effecting me more than her. I really need to stop romanticizing only the good times we had, but unfortunately that’s where my mind is right now. I have to remember the reason we broke up and it’s because the last year was absolute ****.

I always just wonder what if I’d don’t get complacent and stop trying at the relationship, what if I never see her again, what if she forgets about me and moves on fast. I know these are irrational but they do cloud my head.

I’m 26 and make $130k a year and am decently successful in life, I know I’ll eventually be okay again.

Originally Posted by TheBuffmuffin

Was with my ex for 4.5 years. Just broke up 1.5 weeks ago. At the 3 year mark I thought we were for sure going to get married and have kids and then she dropped a “I don’t know if I ever want to get married or have kids”. Instead of calling her out and finding out if she was for real I slowly started to withdrawal from the relationship. Not only that she was already a lefty but she became a huge SJW BLM type of person and that didn’t match with my more traditional conservative views. I also noticed she started to bash her dad more and more and made comparisons to how I was “treating” her and how her dad “mistreated” her mom.

Needless to say she was my first true love and it sucks that it came to an end. I’ve wanted to reach out to her everyday post separation. One thing I did was write a letter on what I would say to her if I wanted her back etc with no intention of giving it to scratch that itch.

First few days were absolute hell and I barely slept and ate, each day gets a tiny tiny bit better.

It was a mutual separation and I thought I was ready for it but I guess you truly never are. Personally outside looking in it appears like the breakup is effecting me more than her. I really need to stop romanticizing only the good times we had, but unfortunately that’s where my mind is right now. I have to remember the reason we broke up and it’s because the last year was absolute ****.

I always just wonder what if I’d don’t get complacent and stop trying at the relationship, what if I never see her again, what if she forgets about me and moves on fast. I know these are irrational but they do cloud my head.

I’m 26 and make $130k a year and am decently successful in life, I know I’ll eventually be okay again.

Read the whole thing. I'm 26 as well--and same story. Girl was my first true love--and I think you miss having that person around and the whole making love aspect than the actual person. Don't be fooled by the good times, that's what we remember. It gets easier (in my case) after around 2 months. Godspeed

Originally Posted by simonsaysgoham

Read the whole thing. I'm 26 as well--and same story. Girl was my first true love--and I think you miss having that person around and the whole making love aspect than the actual person. Don't be fooled by the good times, that's what we remember. It gets easier (in my case) after around 2 months. Godspeed

Did you ever slip up and break no contact or did she contact you?