Thread: Crush/oneitis has a bf but admitted she is attracted to me...what do?

Met this girl last fall during a social sports league. I liked her from the beginning, made it obvious I thought she was cute, and over time we started getting closer. Found out she has a bf but she barely mentions him. Sounds like a trash situation as he has a poverty job and they see each other once or twice a week....she admitted to being lonely too. She has told a mutual friend that if she was single she'd date me. We've been alone on one or two occasions but I have reservations when it comes to making girls cheat.

Over the past couple of weeks things have gotten more intense as far as touchiness and eye fukking. We meet up in group situations but eventually end up sticking to ourselves just vibing for long periods of time. This weekend the bubble kinda bursted. Went to a party where we both were on a substance that brings out deeper emotions, her moreso than me. Ended up admitting that we wanna get to know each other more and that we enjoy each other's company. We then brought up the morality of things and said we would chill out on all the conversations and whatnot. She also mentioned that she had cheated before and didn't wanna do it again. Despite that we still kept up with the talking, building up sexual tension, touching etc....everything besides actually kissing. Towards the end of the night we started coming down. By that point I felt like I was wasting my time doing all of this with a girl that's not mine. She wanted to watch the sunrise together since we were by the water, but I didn't want her to have her cake and eat it too. Didn't necessarily give her an ultimatum, but I asked if she wanted to keep things up or what. She said she needed space and just walked away.

My boys and I left 10-15 mins afterwards. She was still in her car so we said our goodbyes...seemed like she was losing her chit but I didn't press it or try to get one-on-one time. We were supposed to hit up another party with her and her friends the next night but she left before I even got the chance to talk to her. I called her to see what was up and she claimed to be tired. She then said that she was messed up the previous night and didn't really wanna get with me or mean anything she said. All I said was okay, told her to have a nice night.

Haven't stopped thinking about her since. I mean I talk to other girls, last week went on a date with a girl that's way hotter than her but she's the one I really want. Will probably see her this week and not sure if I should play it off so that we can keep vibing, or if I should ignore her until she "misses me". What I really want is for her to break up with her bf and maybe I need to smash in order to make that happen. What do?

Cliffs:
-OP meets a girl who is taken about 5 or so months ago
-OP and girl hit it off well and start getting to know each other, nothing sexual yet
-Over past couple of weeks flirting and conversations have gotten intense
-OP and girl admit we like each other while under the influence of something a lot stronger than alchohol
-Agree that we do not want to cross any boundaries since she is taken
-Next night OP talks to crush over the phone and she says she didn't mean anything
-OP has not stopped thinking about her, wants her to breakup with bf
-Not sure how to proceed going forward

Originally Posted by DigDeeper1

Once a cheat always a cheat brah

Real talk. Start looking elsewhere for a new oneitis. Because if she can be that/vocalize/have those thoughts with you when she has a bf now, she can and will be of that same aura when you're the bf and there's some guy she's partying with that she thinks is cute or w/e. I had a girl like 2 years ago that was on me like white on rice but she had a bf. Long story short she breaks up with her bf "for me" and eventually gets bored and starts fcking around with *another* guy unbeknownst to me. Moral of the story: don't do it, you're setting yourself up for pain and drain. If you think that it can't happen to you it will. Whenever you see something like that it's like a shipment of red fcking flags.