Thread: Miscers who used to have anger/confrontation issues, I need help (srs)

i had a friend tell me this before

"a normal person who meets an random ******* on the street, they would ignore it and go about their day"

but for me, i often find myself hard to walk away.

its almost like my vision narrows like a movie screen and im just watching myself in third person go off



I understand and realize that there will always be *******s in the world and as I am typing this I realize I have to choose and pick my battles.


Any miscers have some tips to turn the other cheek?

Originally Posted by DrugsToGetBig

i still dont tolerate nonsense from strangers

but keeping the thought of imprisonment or being institutionalized at the forefront of my mind helps

yeah but you never know which person on the street is crazy and just pulls a weapon or something.

the thing is if anyone fks with my friends or family then my mind just goes blank


and its like im just seeing myself in third person going crazy

i guess everyone on the misc is just calm and collected all thetime

That’s your problem, OP. You’re your own worst enemy. Just keep on walking.

Originally Posted by Dirtylocks

I want to take you seriously but I suspect you're an alt.

To answer your question, I have this issue. I've been fired from a job after being there over a decade for being "confrontational".

I also confronted cheating ex and the guy she cheated on me with and it almost landed me in prison (srs). I have to go to civil court soon over this. Ded fkn srs

I've never been in a real fight, but the few I have come close to being in occurred when I stood up to some thugs wanting to phuck with me.

What I've learned? Walk away. It could mean the difference between jail and freedom.

Pride takes a hit though. (it would either way sadly)

I am being serious.

What did you do at your job? did you not tiptoe around when asking someone to complete their task?

Can you tell your story about the ex?

I would confront the guy too depending on the situation .

I've only been in a few fights, by no means I am a good fighter at all. I just don't roll over when confronted by thugs or drunk *******s.

Idk. Has any1 attended anger management class or is it bull****?

It’s your adrenaline response srs

Overactive and easily excited. Makes you absolutely not think and do things in the moment. Physiologically it pumps your heart rate up, slows rational thinking in the brain, and makes you angry. Fight or flight

You need to learn to relax this reaction system, and also be able to recognize it quicker

Originally Posted by Sevenlionz

It’s your adrenaline response srs

Overactive and easily excited. Makes you absolutely not think and do things in the moment. Physiologically it pumps your heart rate up, slows rational thinking in the brain, and makes you angry. Fight or flight

You need to learn to relax this reaction system, and also be able to recognize it quicker

i feel like i have been getting better about it recently but another confrontation sets me back.

i dont want to do something in the heat of the moment and regret it

or

escalate something that coulda been avoided .


like i said earlier honestly thats one of the reasons why i avoid crowded bars and never get plastered anymore. afraid i will hurt someone or myself in a stupid bar fight if you meet a group of *******s.

Try meditation or long distance running. Basically you have weak self control and give in easily to your impulses. Need to practice patience.

Just don’t care anymore. Apathy 100%. Nobody cares if you succeed and most people want you to fail. There’s no point to trying to please people.

Originally Posted by lackofoxygen

i feel like i have been getting better about it recently but another confrontation sets me back.

i dont want to do something in the heat of the moment and regret it

or

escalate something that coulda been avoided .


like i said earlier honestly thats one of the reasons why i avoid crowded bars and never get plastered anymore. afraid i will hurt someone or myself in a stupid bar fight if you meet a group of *******s.

Yeah bro I know what you mean. I used to be the same way, especially when I was on the sauce. I am lucky I am not dead or in prison now srs, I have some stories of times like this that I am so embarrassed to tell

Meditation has helped me a ton, it almost allows you to slow down and “get behind” the reaction and make better choices in the heat of the moment. Also I believe some people are just naturally more aggressive, getting that anger out through lifting or fighting or other sports is great too.

Lastly, the realization that most people are just doing what they do unconsciously also allows me to not care nearly as much. They are just running on a program, almost mindlessly doing stuff.

ALSO: think deeply, why does what they do offend you? What part of it makes you feel weak, or scared or like you need to defend yourself? Where does it come from. This one is deep and involves a lot of character growth but a huge one