Thread: Should I cancel on her

Been seeing this girl for 3 months, and to keep it short I can tell she’s not into me as I’m into her. I mean I tried my best really, making plans to go out weekly and show her new experiences, not really getting anything close to an equal amount back. Like she never texts me. I’ve been blinded by my feelings for her, but now I’m accepting it for what it is.

I have a double date planned with her and her roommate on Thursday, i set my boy up, which is the only reason I haven’t canceled the plans yet. But I think I’ll cancel and just won’t hit her up again and forget about her and move on. Right decision?

i mean you set ur boy up


go out, make her pay, get yucky


dont look back

Go out, support your boy, don't make it about you and this girl at all, have a good time and see what happens....what've you got to lose?

If it's weird and you 2 just aren't hitting it off, don't reach out to her anymore.

If it falls apart and the roommate doesn't like your friend, oh well you tried. Yall are already out.....have some drinks, go out have a good time. Both girls are probably expecting to at least get a free meal out of it anyway, so why so serious?

Best case you end up high fiving your buddy while you getting your dinks wet

Worst case you have a semi awkward dinner, laugh about it later and end up high fiving your buddy while you both fap.

Originally Posted by Mercworx

Move on. Its already taking too much of your energy. Your friend can find his own dates.

I get the other replies but he can get his own chicks too, like I’ve already put in enough effort with this girl

Originally Posted by Coolman468

I get the other replies but he can get his own chicks too, like I’ve already put in enough effort with this girl

3 months.......You gotten any play?

What keeps you coming back to her?

Originally Posted by bsmit107

3 months.......You gotten any play?

What keeps you coming back to her?

Of course bro lol, I would’ve left a while ago, but my feelings for her has been what’s been bringing me back. I’m just not willing to emotionally invest this much and not get half of it back.

Originally Posted by friesbruh

Nah, talk to your boy first, see if he's still down and if he is then go but if he doesnt care then suggest cancelling and you all do your own thing. You committed to going out. Cant punish him because now you feel different. Just give no fuks that night and live it up.

I mean I asked him if he cared, he said yea but if I gotta cancel then it’s cool

Originally Posted by Coolman468

Of course bro lol, I would’ve left a while ago, but my feelings for her has been what’s been bringing me back. I’m just not willing to emotionally invest this much and not get half of it back.

So just keep it casual?

I get it if you cant....some women will just have that pull on you. Maybe talk to her about it, see if she's up for more....maybe she just thinks yall have a FWB type thing going and is afraid/scared to push.

Either way I still think you should at least go to dinner.

About once a week for the last 10 weeks

Originally Posted by bsmit107

So just keep it casual?

I get it if you cant....some women will just have that pull on you. Maybe talk to her about it, see if she's up for more....maybe she just thinks yall have a FWB type thing going and is afraid/scared to push.

Either way I still think you should at least go to dinner.

That’s my problem brother, one I’m a big overthinker, and when my emotions become involved I can’t just do fwb or even really spend time with the person because I just often feel bad.

Also she had a very minor procedure today, and I told her to let me know how it went, and it’s bed time and crickets, I’m trying to show I care for her but I can’t even get an update lol. If a girl ain’t crazy bout you as you are her then it’s time to move on. Plus I’m 95% sure she’s seeing other people.

Don't cancel but just don't show up to the date

Originally Posted by DesperateEnuf

Don't cancel but just don't show up to the date

Lol, nah I’m not a dickhead like that, plus she didn’t do anything wrong, nothing wrong with not reciprocating someone’s else’s feelings