Thread: have you ever stopped hanging out with someone as much?

a friend that you used to spend a lot of time hanging out with, that you don't see as often. how come?

Originally Posted by OliverHeldens

Also with Social Media you can keep tabs on people without needing to be present with them all the time, which is good.

I'd argue that this ruins connections

It's just life. People move, or move in a different direction in life and people shift in how they live. It's normal. It's human nature.

Just got a call from my buddies wife, she's like a sister to me. She's upset that I don't hang out anymore, but our lives have shifted in different directions, and she just found out I live 20 hours away now. He's a brother to me, and she's like a sister to me, they always will be. But life takes different courses, nothing can change that.

Yeah, that's completely valid. Say you're friends with someone in high school and early adulthood, through college, but your paths inevitably diverge, that's fair. I've worked extremely hard in the past 15 years to keep my large friend group cohesive. Planning parties, camping trips, etc. As a result of that hard work, I'm still in touch with my tight group of 12 or so friends from back in elementary school and high school. Luckily, our paths have not diverged considerably. My wife recently flushed a few of her older friends. A few women who wound up bitter, jaded, and resentful, crashed through that wall hard as fuk, no partner, no kids, schit career, basically dead end. Don't need that kind of negativity on your life. Basically, whenever she'd have a get together with them the conversation was always negative, about how they're unhappy and all men are schit and just whining and bitching and moaning while accepting ZERO accountability or responsibility for your own actions or, in this case, inaction.

Sometimes it's time to flush a few friends. Don't feel bad. Don't keep negative a$$holes in your close circle.

Yeah it’s just part of life. How old are you? It’ll happen more as you get older. My childhood best friend became a junkie. Chit happens.

Originally Posted by p7nk

real good friend of mine. use to hang out all the time, especially since i worked in his city. but i literally live the town over -20 minutes away. We just got out of touch and than Rona hit and he deleted me off facebook.. so guess he felt some kinda way.. cause i got people on facebook i don't talk to anymore.. but i wouldn't go through the effort of actually deleting them..

That’s the phaggiest fuking chit. I don’t even post on Facebook anymore but every once in a while I’ll log on and notice people I knew well, and in some cases was very good friends with, have randomly deleted me. When a man does it I lose respect for them immediately. With sloots I get it, but it’s still pathetic. It’s usually these types who want to “clear their life of toxicity” even though they’re the ones making poor choices that fuk them up.

yea, one of my best friends, he became a liberal douche as we got older, I still treated him as a friend, he started treating me like I was 'against him'.

Not my fault I grew up and got a job and all he wants to do is play guitar in ****ty bands and make dick. Music became a hobby for me, he is still chasing some pathetic dream in his late 30s living in a crappy apartment telling everyone that he is poor because the system is against him. Mind you, he is white, and went to private/catholic school growing up. He dropped out of college because he was partying too much. Had all the same opportunities in life.

Texted him just last week a picture of some old music stuff of our, just said "blast from the past" and he didn't even reply.

I think lot of it is also jealously that i live well and have nice things, hot wife, a family. When we were kids and playing in bands, he was guitarist and always could pull chicks. Now as a sad poor late 30 year old, he never has a girl.

Originally Posted by GuineaDago585

Yeah it’s just part of life. How old are you? It’ll happen more as you get older. My childhood best friend became a junkie. Chit happens.

27. He's 36 and just plays computer games and smokes grass, hasn't got laid in 5 years. He's a really nice dude don't get me wrong, but I don't really want to be spending my free time doing that