Thread: Ask a man who had a successful divorce in a liberal cucked state anything

In my state run by liberal cuck asssclowns, women are automatically highly favored in divorce court for cout awarded spousal maintenance, child custody rights, and child support.

My ex told me she was done and moving on about a little over a year ago. I had been busting my asss doing OT at work for almost the entire length of our marriage (about 8 years to that point) to ensure we could live a comfortable lifestyle whilst still paying off her ridiculous student loans she couldn't manage on her own. I was thus by far the higher earner.

When the process first began, she threatened to seek long-term spousal payments from me, majority custody of our child, and asking me to cover 100% of legal fees including her own.

In the end, I talked my way into 50% joint child custody rights, 0 child support payments, and 0 spousal maintenance/alimony. Furthermore, the agreement affirms that she can never come after my retirement. Also agreed was that all court agreements were 100% final and were not to be reviewable for later changes in court if someone had a change of heart down the road. Also got to keep my house and be court ordered free from her horrible student debts I blew almost a decade total helping her pay off.

Sorry you dealt with this but at least there is a silver lining.

Fukin hell bro. GJDM.

But like how?

You were only able to do this because you married a woman who was educated and likely has, or at the very least has the ability to, get a decent job. If you had married a waitress you'd be up chits creek.

Congrats on getting out brah. I remember your first thread about getting a divorce

So would you ever get married again or are you jaded now?

Originally Posted by northernlights7

In my state run by liberal cuck asssclowns, women are automatically highly favored in divorce court for cout awarded spousal maintenance, child custody rights, and child support.

My ex told me she was done and moving on about a little over a year ago. I had been busting my asss doing OT at work for almost the entire length of our marriage (about 8 years to that point) to ensure we could live a comfortable lifestyle whilst still paying off her ridiculous student loans she couldn't manage on her own. I was thus by far the higher earner.

When the process first began, she threatened to seek long-term spousal payments from me, majority custody of our child, and asking me to cover 100% of legal fees including her own.

In the end, I talked my way into 50% joint child custody rights, 0 child support payments, and 0 spousal maintenance/alimony. Furthermore, the agreement affirms that she can never come after my retirement. Also agreed was that all court agreements were 100% final and were not to be reviewable for later changes in court if someone had a change of heart down the road. Also got to keep my house and be court ordered free from her horrible student debts I blew almost a decade total helping her pay off.

I am guessing having a strong PRENUP and a TURBO lawyer made it pretty easy...?! Marin' SRS though.

I don't need to ask questions... GJDM!!

Originally Posted by northernlights7

False. I was up chit creek because I was BY FAR the higher earner between us because I did absurd amounts of OT for many years to enable us to pay off her stupid student loans. The courts were predisposed to viewing her favorably for that reason alone.

Ironically, the only reason she ended up making slightly more money than me is because I finally pushed her to use her degree to some extent and get a real job with it. She finally did that about a year before she bailed. If I hadn't talked her into finally getting a real job with her degree, THEN I would have been up chit creek in the divorce.

But she did eventually end up making more money than you. If she did not have the ability to do that you would've been in a way worse position.

Listen, this is a very cool story even though I didn't read it. Where are the pics?

OJ had it right

Originally Posted by ErnieMccracken

How did you "talk you way into" not giving her free money?

A hitman, the 100K kind.

Love reading stories of guys not totally getting fukked in the ass by the system

Good for you OP, the key as you all may have noticed is that she earns a reasonable amount of income. Maybe some SAHM and you’re FUKKED at every stop between here and Timbuktu.

OP, I already was nodding my head when I saw you posting about how her kunt friends encouraged her to leave you because that's the exact same thing that happened with my ex.

Now I see you talking about doing insane OT. I was in a similar situation on that end too. I was entirely focused on making the relationship work when I was dating my ex to the point where I got nothing else done yet this effort was entirely lost on her, it just didn't register. When I had a crunch time of 80 hour work weeks, she got mad at me for being tired and not paying attention to her. When I got sick and she was there seeing me cough and sneeze, she got mad at me for being tired and not paying attention to her.

When I see the exact same horror stories being told by other guys, it convinces me that all women are all basically the same. Once you know one woman, you know them all.

Originally Posted by northernlights7

I would abolutely NEVER get married again. When I married the first time, I was a young man without much to lose. Now, I actually have some assets and a real career job. Lmao at the idea of risking losing any of what I have worked so long for for go to some sloot down the road by legally marrying them. I lost enough of my assets in my first divorce. I would try the family thing again under the right circunstances, but would never consider taking the crappy gamble of legal marriage again.

I don't blame you. I have a couple of friends with this view point after their divorces. Are you dating anyone now? If so does she know this? And if not, when is a good time to approach the subject to let her know that's absolutely not a possibility?

(We've had this same exact convo about when it's appropriate to broach the subject in my circle of friends)