Realistically was something that never had a high chance of success, but she was a girl I met while traveling in Rio de Janeiro and it would have been a really good story if it did work.
Spent two weeks together at the beginning and everything was great just traveling as friends/backpacker types, and then also traveled to Mexico few weeks later, and this was when things went off the rails. She's the type of girl who has been in a lot of relationships in the past, and ended up turning into a much different (and much worse) person when she viewed us as being in some type of relationship(and finding out I had money) than when traveling as friend where she didn't know my financial capabilities(likely as some type of defense mechanism to keep things from getting too close?). She would do odd things like getting all kinds of different guys Instagram while we were out(when these guys were clearly hitting on her), and she started wanting me to pay for everything without giving any type of real commitment in return. In contrast, the first couple weeks I spent with her were awesome, and she presented herself as like the perfect proper girl who would make a 10/10 girlfriend(but also liked to party and was super fun but respectful to be out with).
Was a terrible communicator, and although I don't believe she was actually fuking other guys or anything, she would tell stories about partying in all these sexual situations and obviously leave out many details or be vague about a lot of things which would mess with my head a lot. I couldn't tell if this was her being intentionally manipulative or what, but I've personally never been close with a girl who acted like this. We were actually supposed to travel again this week, but I could tell she kept trying to change things around to position the situation where I would be paying for her things. She kept saying she had her own money, but still wanted me to pay for things 100% after a while. Although she would say she loved me at the end, she didn't seem to have any interest in me unless it could result in her gaining some type of financial benefit. Basically if I wanted any type of love from her it came with a price.
Looking back, it almost seems like she follows a certain pattern and has done this a lot of times in order to use guys for a short amount of time while gradually turning into a crappier and crappier person. Yesterday, she had gone on a trip and I was planning to meet her there, and she told me I needed to stop and buy her some jewelry before leaving as a gift(because there was something I had done a couple days before that had upset her) and this is when I laughed and told her to fuk off. She quickly said I was no longer welcome to come visit her.
I'd like to know the end game with a girl like this, like if a guy doesn't have the balls to leave and just sticks around. Financial ruin?
Rule #1: Unless you are with a girl who has her own career and makes like $100k+ with a legit job, never ever talk about how much money you have or even take a girl to lavish places. Even if it feels good to spend cash on a person you like, money ruins relationships before they reach a certain point. This girl presented herself as a high class girl who had experienced a high class lifestyle in the past so I thought I could get away with it, but as soon as she found out the depth of my financial resources she started treating me as nothing more than a walking ATM machine and any semblance of a real relationship went out the window.
Live and learn, I really wanted to keep this girl around as a FWB or travel buddy for the future(and this is where I should have kept her to begin with and should have never tried an actual relationship), but the relationship was too toxic to keep in any fashion.
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Today, 04:02 AM #1Registered User
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Just broke up with my girl yesterday.....
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Lol, luckily she would never let me in close enough to get really attached, so I'll get over it pretty quickly. Basically already am.Originally Posted by Toker095
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Just one question, OP: Do you think I'm reading all of that?
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Lol, I was hoping to get some type of advice maybe? Obviously the big mistake was catching feels in what should have remained a FWB situation.Originally Posted by Kratos89
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Where are the pics phaggot
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Not reading all that but agree with this conclusion. Whatever the problems were with the girl, you could have downgraded her to FWB and kept her in some kind of rotation. Unless she was too much hassle even for that?Originally Posted by OliverHeldens
edit: skimmed it. Definitely do not be lavishing gifts on girls, regardless of circumstance or ability to do so. At most, drop coin on shared experiences that will become great memories for you both.
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Lol, if I hated her I'd post pics but I still hope to travel with her in the future so I wouldn't do that. She's a 30 year old Brazilian girl, probably a 5-6/10 face and a 9/10 body when she's in shape.Originally Posted by Obafemi1
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pics?
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Yep. This is when things went wrong. I never bought her lavish gifts, but once she realized the experiences I was capable of giving her she stopped respecting me and almost started treating me like I was her father or something. She is a bit of a princess.Originally Posted by Redundanteater
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Social media and dating apps have completely ruined girls........not going to finacially support her? Fine.....shes got 100 thirsty timothys hitting up her DM's on Tinder ready to spend cash on her
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didn't read but just wanted to say you dropped a banger a couple of days ago
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Yep, I fuked her every day we were together except the first. Best sex of my life. Did all kinds of freaky things with her that I will likely never do again. She would have uncontrollable screaming orgasms every time.Originally Posted by hydraides
It's good that I haven't actually seen her for a month, because this will make things much easier to get over. If I went on the trip with her this week and fuked her for another 10 days, I would be hooked on that pussy for a while longer.
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CopeFear would have had that chit on vocaroo for all of the miscers to enjoy...Originally Posted by OliverHeldens
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Yeah, she's been the only girl who could get me off while wearing a condom. I typically bang girls for like 30 minutes and lose interest while wearing a rubber, but she could get me off in like 5. 10/10 sex.Originally Posted by woadito
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Thanks, OP.
Your girl and I were getting tired of hiding it - this really streamlines the whole thing - gnome sayin'.“When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you'll be successful.”
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Cliffs? Pics? what the fuk man is this real life
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Lol, unless she's fuking some other random dudes on her current trip, I doubt she has anything currently lined up. But if she wanted to get some dick I'm sure she could get it.Originally Posted by PTzFree
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OP meets girl in Rio de Janiero, has awesome two weeks with a girl who he thinks has strong GF potential.Originally Posted by CeBKa
OP travels with girl to Mexico a few weeks later and takes her to really nice resorts. Girl starts acting erratic, talks to other guys. Gets other guys info. Basically starts acting single while she is staying with OP at $500 per night resort. Girl stays in Mexico for a week OP leaves to go home and acts like the most single girl in the world(she told a bunch of stories about being around people having group sex and such)
OP plans another trip with her for this week which she demands he pays for 100%. OP was going to meet her there yesterday, and she demanded that I bring jewelry to make up for some petty argument she was mad over(about her lack of communication)
OP told her he wasn't bringing jewelry, and she said that I should cancel my flight and not come.
Conclusion: Don't let a girl know your financial capabilities until she is willing to give you commitment.
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you want adviceOriginally Posted by OliverHeldens
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Yeah, this is true. Also, she's a frequent traveler like myself and from experience there's just no way to get commitment from the type of free spirit traveler type until they're ready to settle down.Originally Posted by stash867
I think she might be willing to do it in a handful of years, but she's clearly not ready right now.
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spit my mutha****in coffee out, thanks!Originally Posted by oliverheldens
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Conclusion: Don't let a girl know your financial capabilities unless you're prepared to be categorized as a beta bucks provider.Originally Posted by OliverHeldens
FTFY
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Lol, I mean it's going to take a while to get completely over her. But I'm already a lot better than I was about 7 days ago when things seemed like they were starting to get a bit rocky.Originally Posted by TheT800
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Yeah, 100%. It's crazy how quickly I went from being this awesome hot guy who she had crazy times with to a boring older guy in her mind. Money is the ultimate vaginal dryer.Originally Posted by Redundanteater
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lol das it maneOriginally Posted by TokenV
anyway, now that its all over can we finally expect to see some cotdamn pics or wut OP
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Yeah, this is definitely true with the girl. She didn't have a big network of these people, but I'm sure she met a bunch of richer guys after I left in Mexico. And this is coincidentally when she started demanding that I pay for everything 100%. I bet she met like 20 guys who were willing to step up as betas, and it made me very expendable.Originally Posted by hydraides
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