Over the last 3 years since my break I’ve dated a ton, they never worked out. Usually ends with the girl losing interest, goes to show good looks only get your foot in the door. And from that I’ve built quite a big insecurity. Whenever I like a girl and have been seeing her for maybe a month I start getting really anxious that she will send me a message telling it she’s not longer interested. I start overanlyze everything I did and said, everything she did and said even before the message.
I’m doing it now with a girl I’ve been seeing for 3 months now. I’m just overanalzing everything now.
What’s some advice ?
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Today, 12:39 PM #1Registered User
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How do you guys work on your dating anxiety and insecurities
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Today, 12:41 PM #2Some booze, to loosen up, and work on your social skills u potatoOriginally Posted by Coolman468
Always remember, that YOU are the most important person in your world.
Bosnian brah
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Today, 12:49 PM #3Unregistered Indian
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Feel like that's too vague to be helpful.Originally Posted by edd4nz
"just be less of a social retard OP"
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Today, 12:56 PM #4Registered User
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looks do get your foot in the door but it closes pretty quickly if you dont start meeting her other criteria
kind of job youve got
place you live at
car you drive
friends you have
your lifstyle
your history
best defense is a good offense
go on the "attack" right away
instead of letting her interrogate you pretend you are vetting her for a position in your company
make her qualify herself to you
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Today, 01:07 PM #5
I don't date anymore but I found that back in the day a drink or two would settle the jitters and make me "funnier" prior to meeting up.
Once you're comfortable you can lay off the one to two drink tactic.
Don't want to drink? Go get a good, exhausting workout prior. It will shoot your confidence through the roof and make you much more calm overall. Body and mind.
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Today, 01:07 PM #6Forever aBOARD
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Man up. Your whining like a little bish bro.
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Today, 01:10 PM #7So it begins
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you can psych yourself out of anything thats not within your control boyo
some things in life such as a sloot telling you she doesnt love you anymore a month into a relationship is one of those things
i'd suggest trying keep that at the forefront of your mind*No fap Crew*
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Today, 01:12 PM #8Registered User
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Did anyone actually read the op? I don’t get nervous or insecure on the actual date lol. My problems stems from constantly thinking the rejection is coming and questioning all their actions through lenses when I’m not with them and have developed feelings.
It has nothing to do with the girl, and everything to do with me being in my own head and making myself feel anxious
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Today, 01:15 PM #9So it begins
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i feel my response is applicable to your postOriginally Posted by Coolman468
its out of your control if she wishes to do that*No fap Crew*
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Today, 01:31 PM #10That’s cause you’re a beta, insecure, little whiny bitch. Enjoy the relationship while it lasts and if it ends simply move on.Originally Posted by Coolman468
Always remember, that YOU are the most important person in your world.
Bosnian brah
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Today, 01:35 PM #11Registered User
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You’re definitely correct and I tell myself that, have it written down. But it will take work, it’s been building up for 3 years. So it will take time. Thank you for your responseOriginally Posted by DrugsToGetBig
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