How to survive isolation with a partner: Sexologist reveals her top tips for keeping lockdown love alive - from creating a 'sexual menu' to time in different rooms of the home
An award-winning sexologist has shared her top tips for partners navigating quarantine together, from creating a 'sexual menu' to mix things up in the bedroom to ensuring you do a separate activity once a day.
Chantelle Otten, who is dating Australian tennis star Dylan Alcott, appeared on KIIS 101.1's radio breakfast show to talk about the importance of creating 'you' time in between working and living around your loved ones - and what to do if you're single or separated.
'If you're feeling a bit sick of your partner or need space that's totally normal and you should prioritise that,' she explained to the hosts Jason Hawkins and Polly Harding.
Chantelle Otten, who is dating Australian tennis star Dylan Alcott, appeared on KIIS 101.1's radio breakfast show to talk about the importance of creating 'you' time in isolation
'If you're feeling a bit sick of your partner or need space that's totally normal and you should prioritise that,' she said (couple pictured exercising during isolation)
The professional sexologist recommends going on walks each day, which is still permitted for exercise reasons in Australia, and if there is a spare room in your house it should be utilised.
'It's so healthy to be apart. It gives you time to miss them. You can watch separate shows at night and meet back in the middle to talk about it,' she said.
This time in isolation can actually be viewed in a positive light, Chantelle said, because it's an opportunity to try something different sexually.
When it comes to spending time in the bedroom she recommends trying something a little bit more obscure off the 'sexual menu', like an erotic massage, rather than just the same 'three-course dish' you normally would.
When it comes to spending time in the bedroom she recommends trying something a little bit more obscure off the 'sexual menu', like an erotic massage, rather than just the same 'three-course dish' you normally would (Chantelle pictured with Dylan Alcott)
For those couples who don't live together and are struggling with the opposite problem - too much time apart - Chantelle says they should schedule in a 'date night'.
'Whether you are together or apart, we want to have a nice clean space to work with. So either put your stuff away in a tidy manner, or, if you are like me, throw it into another room (and leave it there for a long time),' she wrote on Instagram.
'Make the table with some candles, put on my Spotify sex playlist (search Chantelle Otten Sexologist on Spotify).
'Now, whether in person or online… I like to strip down for the occasion… I'll usually wear my lingerie because they have some great one-pieces that are stretchy and mould to fit your body, but anything that is sexy and confident will be great.'
For those couples who don't live together and are struggling with the opposite problem - too much time apart - Chantelle says they should schedule in a 'date night'
Her advice is to light some candles before the date begins, which might feature cooking food at the same time, playing a game like the '36 questions that lead to love' which is available online, or go through old photos of yourselves.
If your date is preparing to end and you'd like to try a bluetooth-activated sex toy, now is the time. You can give your partner the remote so they can pleasure you from afar.
Those who are single and still wanting to date during the coronavirus, Chantelle said her friends have had great success on Bumble which has a video and voice call feature.
Those who are single and still wanting to date during the coronavirus, Chantelle said her friends have had great success on Bumble which has a video and voice call feature (couple wearing face masks in Melbourne)
'People are using the time to develop deeper connections with these calls,' she said.
'Friends are starting to talk for longer periods of time over the phone and getting more personal, whereas you'd normally just go on a date and probably not say as much.'
That gap between first matching and your first date will only build sexual tension, and will hopefully make the wait worth it.
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