Single radio producer Jana Hocking, 34, answers the juicy dating questions men want answered - from porn habits to first dates and age gap relationships
- Triple M producer Jana Hocking has been open about her dating escapades
- The 34-year-old had been receiving a number of direct messages from men
- So she decided to host a Q&A on her Instagram to answer some of the concerns
- The questions ranged from whether women watch porn to why they don't reply
Radio producer Jana Hocking (pictured)
A single radio producer who writes a monthly column on her dating escapades has hosted a Q&A session online so Australian men can ask her about their relationships.
Jana Hocking, who works at Sydney's Triple M radio station, has been receiving a number of direct messages on Instagram from concerned would-be boyfriends who aren't sure why they're receiving mixed signals from a potential love interest.
'They've read the articles I've shared on insta, or watched the odd TV appearance I've made to chat about said articles, and felt the need to reach out with their own questions,' the 34-year-old wrote on Whimn.
So in a bid to share her knowledge Miss Hocking poured herself a glass of wine on April 14 and opened her direct message inbox to the public, asking 'what do you blokes want to know about women?'
She had between 80 and 100 messages from confused men looking for answers.
Do women watch porn?
This was an easy answer for Miss Hocking to answer, and she simply replied: 'Yes, yes they do. Even the quiet ones.'
She attached a graph that explained which categories of porn women engage with the most to provide more of an insight.
Lesbian videos, 'romantic' options and 'threesomes' were the top choices across the board.
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She had between 80 and 100 messages from confused men looking for answers
Should we go big on the first date or keep it more low-key?
Miss Hocking argued that fancy gestures on round one weren't the best idea, given you might work out 'in the first five minutes that you've been catfished'.
Instead she recommended taking your date to a restaurant or bar you like so she can get a taste for what you enjoy, which provides an insight into your personality.
Once the feelings are mutual between the two of you it's okay to plan something more romantic.
Why do so many cancel before the first date or without warning?
'Honestly because they're not that invested,' Miss Hocking said to the annoyed suitor.
'If you're really excited for a date you would never cancel. You may have a million wines beforehand to calm the nerves but you go on the date.'
She said this kind of behaviour should ultimately be considered a blessing because the date clearly would have been a waste of your time.
'If you're really excited for a date you would never cancel. You may have a million wines beforehand to calm the nerves but you go on the date,' she said
Would you be put off by advances from an older guy? Or is age just a number?
Miss Hocking said she wasn't personally affronted by the idea of dating an older man, although she once got together with someone 20 years older than her and it was a 'snore-fest'.
She answered the question by saying she doesn't understand why older men set their Tinder preferences to only match with women in their 20s and 30s when ladies in their own demographic would be just as interesting.
Women who don't reply generally aren't interested, she said
So while age can be just a number, it's also important to date 'within reason' so you have things in common.
Why does the girl I'm getting to know go from hot to cold?
This could mean that she's not 100 per cent convinced you're the right one, Miss Hocking said.
She might be enjoying the attention she's getting but also want to keep her options open.
Girls who behave in this way might also be 'playing games', which is a sign of insecurity. They might not want to commit for fear they will eventually get rejected.
Would you prefer being ghosted or should he just say he's not that into you?
Miss Hocking firmly disagreed that ghosting was ever the answer to ending a courtship.
'Always tell a girl. If you don't it looks like you have no balls and imagine if your mates found out you ghosted someone? It's just embarrassing,' she said.
'Be better. We're fine and we can handle it.'
Why do women match with you on dating apps and then unmatch when you send a message?
Miss Hocking believes most women would only unmatch a date if a man's opening line was either cheesy or sleazy in nature.
If it was just a simple question then you're more likely going to get a response.
However, if it looks like your copying and pasting a response to all your connections this will come across fairly quickly, and should be avoided.
