'Should I tell my wife I am dying?' Husband, 31, says he 'doesn't have the heart' to tell his wife he has just 12 months to live - and is planning a dream holiday before he gets too sick
- A young husband has confessed on a Reddit thread his troubling dilemma
- He had a life expectancy of around 60-years-old because of a medical condition
- But following a new complication his time remaining has been cut to just a year
- He didn't want to ruin a dream trip to Australia by breaking the news to her
A dying man has revealed he 'doesn't have the heart' to tell his wife he has only 12 months to live and wants to go on a long holiday with her before breaking the news.
The anonymous husband, 31, confessed to his dilemma on Reddit and said he didn't want his last year 'to be plagued with impending doom'.
'I had always been projected to live until 50-60ish - I've been dealing with a medical condition that requires constant medication,' the social media user wrote.
A dying man has revealed he 'doesn't have the heart' to tell his wife he has only 12 months to live (stock photo)
The man said his medical condition had worsened and his prognosis was much shorter now
'However, a recent complication has cut that down to 12 months or six at best,' he added.
'I am married of four years with no kids. I haven't had the heart to tell my wife the news - I don't even know how.'
The young man then revealed his controversial idea about how to tackle the final months of his life.
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'I've been saving up to go to graduate school, however I don't see much point in that now.
'My idea is to take some of that money, take my wife to Australia for a few months and enjoy the time together.'
He said he would tell his wife the bad news at the end of their trip or just after it, as she is emotional and would cry every day of the holiday.
Instead of telling his wife now he said he'd prefer to take her on a dream holiday first
But the idea did not go down well with his fellow Redditors, many of whom said it would be hard for her to forgive him if he followed through with his plan.
'As the wife of a husband who is also dying, please, please tell her. She’ll never forgive you if you don’t,' one user wrote.
'Definitely she has a right to know. Can't imagine how angry she'll be finding out so late,' another added.
One commenter empathised strongly with the man's wife, saying they were in her position and it ruined their final moments with their loved one.
'Please tell her. My mother hid her cancer from me and my family - we eventually found out and she spent her last month in a hospital while her children and husband were so confused.'
Some did choose to side with the man, saying his final months should also be about his enjoyment and not just that of his wife's.
'He wants to be able to spend the last few months of his life on his terms enjoying himself,' one wrote.
'He knows her well enough to know that if he breaks the news now the last 12 months will be a prolonged experience where he has to nurse through his SO while his final days dry up.'
