Is overthinking killing your relationship?

Sometimes, things can get more complicated if you have the tendency to overthink every little thing. This holds true for problems in your love life as well. Do you often fret about your partner's habits that you dislike? Or, a simple argument makes you worry about the future of your relationship? Basically, your brain is constantly worrying about something or another and it is impacting your peace of mind. Well, the truth is that overthinking only does more damage than good to your relationship. Here are some signs of overthinking and what you can do to stop it.

You always think ‘what if’?
You always tend to brood over issues and assume negative outcomes. You are constantly worrying about things that might not ever happen in future which in turn, stops you from going with the flow in a relationship and being your best self.


You aren't living in the present
Since you are always stressing about one thing or another, you struggle to live in the present moment. In fact, overthinking can kill the joy of dating, meeting new people and enjoying what the current moment has to offer.


Your partner can feel misunderstood
Overthinking can make you assume negative consequences and jump to false conclusions. This can obviously lead to arguments with your partner who might feel upset for being misunderstood almost every time.


You struggle to connect
Obsessing over little things and situations can impact your mood and dent your self-esteem. In fact, even your partner can feel your constant anxiety and discomfort at times. You might end up not being in tune with your true emotions and struggle to create a deep bond with someone.


The solution
The first thing you can do is to acknowledge that you over think and start being a little mindful of your thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself making assumptions and thinking negatively, look for ways to transform these thoughts into positive ones. Look for evidence to support your claims (and assumptions) and if you can’t find one, simply let the thought pass. You can also try writing a journal and try being pragmatic by writing down about all the positive and negative outcomes.


Talking is important
Over-thinkers have the tendency to bottle up their emotions by constantly second-guessing themselves and repressing their feelings. You might live in a constant state of fear or dilemma and ruin your peace of mind. Further, it can also increase your stress levels and the feeling of isolation. Hence, it is really important to discuss what you are feeling with a trusted friend or a therapist. They might point out things or situations you have not thought about and show you the brighter side. Most importantly, it might help you to change the way you overanalyze everything and eventually, feel lighter.