Tell us, if this sounds familiar. A stranger bumps into you on the streets and you are the one to say sorry, you apologise even when things are completely out of your control or do not even demand an apology. However, the worst part is, when your incessant need to apologise is brought to attention, you say sorry for even being sorry. If you recognize yourself in any of the above signs, this article is for you.
The irony is while some people find it difficult to admit that they’re wrong, some have a tendency of apologising at the drop of the hat. Saying sorry a little too much is not rare, however, it is not a good habit to have.
Parents often try their best to inculcate good manners in their children. After all, we want our kids to apologize from a heartful place and make amends for their mistakes.
While the intent might be to turn them into model citizens, we need to teach our kids not to hand out apologies like extra change, rather use them wisely.
Teach them to identify another person's emotions and then ask them if they want to say something.
To put it simply, stop forcing "I am sorry" down your kid's throat just to make him/her look civilised. It might take some practice to make the switch, but it will surely be worth it.
We tell you 5 reasons why you should stop overusing the word “Sorry”:
1. It makes you look guilty
Yes, whether you believe it or not, if you tend to say sorry for every little thing, it could make you look guilty in the eyes of others. Even if your intentions are pure, people may feel that you have something to be guilty of.
2. It makes you feel burdened
If you keep blurting sorry to every other person you bump into, you may feel like you are doing something very wrong, constantly. After a point of time, it gets really troublesome and exhausting to carry the burden of unnecessary guilt.
3. People may find it irritating
Imagine this scenario for yourself. If a friend keeps saying sorry over nothing, ultimately it becomes a little irritating. This is especially apt in a situation where their actions did not even hurt you in the first place.
4. Apology means nothing
If you ask for forgiveness for every little thing, the ‘big’ apology eventually loses its meaning. So, in a situation when you want to apologize from the bottom of your heart, it does not have the same effect anymore.
5. You come across as a weaker person
When you are the first person to apologise, if you have not hurt anyone, it ultimately makes you look like a weaker person. It can also make you a soft target in a lot of unwanted circumstances.
What can you do?
The best way to avoid the strings of sorry is to replace them with a thank you. So, the next time somebody waits for you for an extra 5 minutes, say “Thank you for waiting” instead of apologising for being a little late. Also, try practising the art of saying silent until you find another word except ‘sorry.’
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