Mother-of-one is horrified to discover her husband has fathered 47 children by sperm donation and wants a divorce - but some Reddit users think she's overreacting
- A mother, thought to be British, asked Reddit whether she should leave husband
- She knew he'd given sperm, but recently found out how many children he had
- Stunned by her husband's admission she wondered if she should divorce him
- Thousands of users responded, with thinking she had over reacted about it
A mother-of-one has asked for advice about divorcing her husband after discovering he has fathered 47 children - all from sperm donation when he was younger.
The user fedupwife1234, thought to be British, revealed how her and her husband had been together for eight years, and she assumed his donations may have led to a couple of children.
But she was astonished to discover he had 47, and was concerned about whether problems could arise if the children contacted him when they got to 18.
She took to one of the forums on Reddit to say the admission had altered the way she felt about her husband, and if it was right to ask for a divorce.
But most who replied thought she was overreacting, with one saying: 'I don't understand how this affects your relationship at all.'
The mother-of-one took to Reddit to admit she was distressed by her husband's admission of just how many children he had from donating sperm (stock photo)
Thousands of other users were stunned by her admission, with some saying they didn't understand how she could be so impacted by the thought of the children.
'You asked him, and he told you. If numbers were important to you then you should have asked earlier,' one wrote.
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Another sarcastically commented:'My husband helped out people to raise a family. WIBTA for leaving him for helping?'
Fedupwife1234 originally explained that the couple had been married for eight years, and had a three-year-old daughter together.
She admitted that he had been upfront with the fact he had donated sperm, but she had never queried how many times.
She wrote: 'When we started dating he was very clear that he had donated sperm in the past. I never asked him how much but just assumed it was just a couple of kids.
'Actually ask him last week and he tells me that when the fertility centre last updated him, he had fathered 47 kids.'
She was stunned by the admission, writing: 'I was... Not expecting that many. It's clearly my fault for not asking how many.'
'At the time, I literally said I "didn't care" about his sperm donation and "didn't want to know", so I can't blame him for not telling me how many. I literally told him not to.'
She took to the forum AmITheA****** to question her decision, admitting that she was considering divorcing her husband over his admission
She carried on with: '....But 47?! Christ!!!! I can't stop thinking about all the problems this will cause when we're older.
'WIBTA for divorcing him for something that he was very upfront about?!?!'
She went on to say that she was concerned that the children had the legal right to his contact details when they turned 18, and that she worried about the impact that might have on their life.
Acknowledging it was selfish, she wrote:'I wouldn't mind one or two (hence why I was okay with this initially), but dozens of kids.... It just seems so weird to me? I know this feeling is wrong of me.'
Many other posters were critical of the original poster, with some wondering why she hadn't asked about the number earlier
'I guess I just needed people to tell me I'm being a selfish idiot so that I can get over it.'
She later admitted: 'I'm honestly just an overly emotional person that has trouble dealing with issues.'
Thousands of users responded to her post, with many telling her that she was overreacting and overthinking the potential consequences of having 47 children.
Many began their posts by declaring YTA - an acronym for You're The A******.
Other Reddit users were more understanding about the situation, and could understand the issues that could arise from 47 children potentially getting in contact
Another commented: 'All the problems this will cause? Seems like the only problem that is guaranteed is you leaving him and upending your daughter's life.
However many others could see the situation from her point of view, and expressed sympathy for the troubling situation.
'I could see this being a problem when the kids want to meet him. If any do at all,' one wrote, 'That may be what she’s concerned about when she mentioned all the children getting his contact info at 18.'
They acknowledged she was overthinking, but went on: 'And if the kids want to be a part of his life? It may become a problem. She’s DEFINITELY getting ahead of herself but that’s the only problem I can see from this.'
Another commented that they could understand the issues that could arise, particularly as the pair are married:'Idk, most sperm donation centers allow for the child to get the father's contact information when they reach legal adulthood.
'In a few years they may find themselves being pestered by up to 47 people who want family history, medical info, and possibly looking for an emotional connection to him & his daughter.
'Also, if OP's husband ever dies they would be fielding all of that on his behalf.'
