'Sexpert' blogger claims teenagers should be given vibrators and slams 'failing' sex education for 'doing nothing to teach girls about pleasure'
- Nadia Bokody said young girls should be given vibrators so they can 'feel safe'
- Ms Bokody said women should discover 'pleasure' in privacy in their bedrooms
- She said she is not encouraging kids to have sex but to learn about their bodies
- Ms Bokody said sex education curriculum was failing children 'massively'
A blogger who claims teenagers should be taught how to masturbate has slammed sex education for failing to properly educate young girls.
Nadia Bokody, a Sydney-based sex expert, said sex education fails to teach girls 'about pleasure'.
Ms Bokody said parents should be giving their teenage girls vibrators so they can learn about their bodies in privacy.
'The fact is, the school sex ed curriculum massively fails our kids - girls in particular - when it comes to preparing them for the realities of sex,' she said.
Nadia Bokody (pictured), a Sydney-based journalist, said sex education fails to teach girls 'about pleasure'
Ms Bokody (pictured) said parents should be giving their teenage girls vibrators so they can learn about their bodies in privacy
'While boys learn about erections and wet dreams, the content around girls sex ed tends to focus on menstruation and pregnancy prevention.
'As boys grow, they learn it's acceptable, even praised, to joke about masturbation. They're empowered to know what does and doesn't feel good and to seek it out.
Meanwhile girls grow into young women who see masturbation as dirty and sex as a performative act to be given to men,' she said.
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Ms Bokody said '30 per cent of young women are currently having painful sex', and blamed it on a culture that teaches sex is a service to be performed.
'Imagine if we taught them that their bodies are their own, that we let them discover in the privacy of their own bedrooms on their own what pleasure actually feels like so they could speak during sex,' she said.
'Imagine if we provided them with a safe alternative to having partnered sex before they're psychologically ready.'
Ms Bokody (pictured) said '30 per cent of young women are currently having painful sex', and blamed it on a culture that teaches sex is a service to be performed
Ms Bokody disputed claims from her critics that she was encouraging young children to have sex.
'Far from it. I couldn't agree more with the parents out there saying teens are too young to be having sex,' Ms Bokody said.
'I definitely don't think at age 14 you are prepared for the emotional complexities of sex or that you have a true understanding of how consent works. But the reality is, we can't wave a magic wand and make kids stop having sex. They're having it, and at younger ages than ever before.
'Digging your head into the sand and refusing to acknowledge it will do absolutely nothing to stop it. In fact, we know from research that kids who act out sexually tend to come from homes where sex is shamed and not spoken about.'
Ms Bokody said arguments that children learn about their bodies on their own was 'completely untrue'.
'What is true is that boys discover this themselves because society accepts male masturbation,' she said.
'Research actually shows girls are letting boys have sex with them many years before they are touching their own bodies due to the immense cultural shame we place on female masturbation.'
Ms Bokody's ideas have previously been blasted by parents, with some claiming teaching young girls about masturbation would encourage underage sex.
One woman called Ms Bokody's ideas 'ludicrous' and said it doesn't need to be spoken about publicly as it's a private thing.
Ms Bokody (pictured) said arguments that children learn about their bodies on their own was 'completely untrue'
'What age are you talking about teaching kids about masturbation..why does it need to be taught it's a private thing . Why can't you leave the kids alone let them grow up learning in their own ffs,' the woman wrote on Twitter.
'Horrified by this lunatic!! Masturbation taught in schools. No wonder kids are getting sexually active younger and younger... A disgrace in my opinion,' added another.
'Surely this woman doesn’t have children! There is no way you would want your child to be taught about masturbation and porn in school. What the actual f***,' said a third angry viewer.
However other people applauded the sex expert, saying her views on the topic were 'refreshing'.
'I agree with her points. I have seen so many benefits from documentaries done on these subject matters,' one woman wrote.
Another added: 'I really appreciate your coverage of female masturbation. Hopefully you make a mark on the public, young feminists like myself really value recognition like this on this topic. Thank you!'
You can continue the conversation with Nadia Bokody on Instagram at @nadiabokody.
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