Are YOU in a toxic relationship? Expert reveals the seemingly romantic behaviours that can actually be a warning sign - from sharing their feelings to saying 'I love you' too soon
- Dr Bockarova explained seemingly affectionate behaviour can be a red flag
- Expert warned daters to watch out for someone who says 'I love you' too soon
- Added spending too much time together and oversharing can also be worrying
A relationship expert has shed light on the seemingly romantic gestures that can actually bed red flags for controlling behaviour.
Dr Mariana Bockarova, a relationship psychology teacher at the University of Toronto, explained saying 'I love you' too early on in a relationship might seem like a bold declaration of affection but in reality be can an indicator of an abusive personality.
Speaking to Cosmopolitan, she also noted oversharing wanting to spend an excessive amount of time together could also be cause for concern.
Here, FEMAIL explores some of the warning signs you should watch out for...
SAYING 'I LOVE YOU' TOO SOON
A relationship expert has shed light on the seemingly romantic gestures that can actually bed red flags for controlling behaviour. Stock image
A big, bold declaration of love early in a relationship can make your heart soar, but all is not always as it seems.
While it is normal to feel infatuated with a new partner, someone who makes absolutist promises like 'you are my soul mate' within the first few weeks will likely leave your heartbroken later on.
'Although not true in all cases, this sort of behaviour is quite common, unfortunately, among controlling, abusive, or narcissistic partners,' Dr Bockarova said.
Partners make these sorts of declarations before they have gotten to know the other person and can grow angry or frustrated when the fantasy or idealised version is not met.
She added: 'I would tread carefully with someone making extremely grand gestures before they know you. Be cognisant that long-lasting and healthy love takes communication, trust, reliability, and genuine care, which takes time to build.'
OVERSHARING EARLY IN A RELATIONSHIP
A big, bold declaration of love early in a relationship can make your heart soar, but all is not always as it seems, Dr Mariana Bockarova warns
The great thing about a blossoming relationship is getting to know your partner and what you like about them.
But partners who dump all of their personal lives and trauma on you very early on are a red flag.
Be on your guard if they open up about past relationships during a first date. If they're highly critical of past partners, they might not be the right person for you.
BEING TOGETHER CONSTANTLY
When in love, it's common to want to spend every single second with a new partner.
But everyone needs a bit of space. Partners shouldn't make each other feel guilty for wanting some me-time.
Dr Bockarova said that this is a major red flag.
She added: '[A relationship] becomes toxic and unhealthy when you feel pressured or are actively made to feel guilty for wanting to spend time on interests, or with people other than your partner.'
