This 1 thing that my parents did made me good at defending my point
TNN | Dec 4, 2018, 12:28 IST
Regardless of our age, we all hate hearing the word 'No'. And this irks us most when we are growing up because in the formative years, acceptance from our parents matters the most. The word hurts the most when we hear it for a late night party we want to attend or for an after-school activity that's basically just an excuse to be around our crush.
But there was something different that my parents did that over the years made me good at defending my point. For every request that they said No to, they added, 'try convincing us otherwise'. The first time my mother said it was when I was 9 years old; she told me that I was quite stumped by her request. While the outcome of my argument later resulted in a NO, over a period of time, every time I walked up to my parents with a request, I knew how to put across my point instead of stopping at straight NO.
Having said that, it was tough in the beginning. I sometimes sat down with a pen and paper to frame what I would say and what response I would get, before getting on to preparing my argument to win over a favourable response. For example, if I wanted to stay over the night at my friend's house, I offered that I'd make them talk to my friend's parents before hitting the bed and also once in the morning.
And to be honest, my parents did allow me my fair chances, making me believe that it is indeed important to be allowed to fight out your case with others. It did not stop there. Over the years, it made me attune to always think ahead and plan my arguments better. It also helped me make an extra effort to understand others and sharpened me in ways that I almost always managed to reasonably win an argument.
But there was something different that my parents did that over the years made me good at defending my point. For every request that they said No to, they added, 'try convincing us otherwise'. The first time my mother said it was when I was 9 years old; she told me that I was quite stumped by her request. While the outcome of my argument later resulted in a NO, over a period of time, every time I walked up to my parents with a request, I knew how to put across my point instead of stopping at straight NO.
Having said that, it was tough in the beginning. I sometimes sat down with a pen and paper to frame what I would say and what response I would get, before getting on to preparing my argument to win over a favourable response. For example, if I wanted to stay over the night at my friend's house, I offered that I'd make them talk to my friend's parents before hitting the bed and also once in the morning.
And to be honest, my parents did allow me my fair chances, making me believe that it is indeed important to be allowed to fight out your case with others. It did not stop there. Over the years, it made me attune to always think ahead and plan my arguments better. It also helped me make an extra effort to understand others and sharpened me in ways that I almost always managed to reasonably win an argument.
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