Once a week, Amy Henderson has secret meetings with the wives of the founders of technology companies. They meet at the women’s homes or in their offices, always with the door closed, or they do it remotely by video calls.

Each meeting is different, but the goal is the same—get their male founder husbands to take a substantial paternity leave in the hopes that their enthusiasm for the concept of embracing a work/life balance for parents will both help their own families and then trickle down to the rest of their company.