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What's the easier way to get someone to fall in love with you? I have been sending this girl I know poems for weeks, but she doesn't even tell me if she likes them. I want to get her to like me, but she's making it difficult. What should I do?
You're probably not a poet, the poems you're copying out are probably not interesting enough, or she may have no interest in poetry. Either way, that's not the point. You can't compel someone to fall in love with you unless something about you appeals to them. I suggest you simply spend time with her and get her to know you a little better. Don't treat this like the plot of yet another awful Bollywood film. Being yourself is the only thing you should focus on.
I live in Mumbai and am in love with a girl from Manipur. I have proposed to her many times and told her about how I feel, but I never get a response from her. We chat on WhatsApp a few times. I am concerned about her and don't want to lose her. I am confused about what to do and how to explain to her that I really love her. What can I do to get her to understand where I'm coming from and how I feel about her?
— Kaizad M
If you have told her quite clearly that you are in love with her, and she doesn't react, I'm not sure how else you can make her understand. I'm sure she knows how you feel, and probably gets that you genuinely care about her, too, but it really is her prerogative to react to your declaration or not. She lives in another city and doesn't respond to your messages often, which obviously means you're not a priority in her life at the moment. If she wants to respond, she will; if she doesn't, you should accept her decision and the fact that this probably isn't meant to be.
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