I am in the initial stages of a relationship with a wonderful, loving man. I went to his flat while he was away and decided to put away his laundry. I found some panties in his drawer. I guess they are his ex’s, but they triggered doubts and vulnerabilities. Probably he forgot they were there, but could he unconsciously still be attached to her? Why didn’t she take them away? Is it legitimate to ask him to spring clean properly? I am sure this is quite a common issue many new couples have to face and I’d like some advice on the easiest way to do so.

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