Astroturf | Address your own infirmities first

We are all born with a sense of freedom deeply ingrained in our construct. It often tempts us to live on one’s own exclusive terms, more in demanding rather than a giving mode. In the process, often one becomes oblivious to other’s sensibilities and concerns. So, clash of interest becomes inevitable.  With this mindset, how can we ever think of living in peace and harmony?

Amongst all relationship, the one between a mother and her child is believed to be spontaneous, most pure and selfless. Experience, however, suggests that it remains true till the child’s infant stage only. The mother would take all the pains to nurse the child. Even the child will spontaneously seek mother’s refuge whenever they feel threatened.  The scenario changes, once the child gains the sense of freedom and begins exerting it. And then, clash of ego becomes probable. A large majority of mothers though reconcile by digesting even the child’s vagaries, but some of them won’t take it kindly. They feel that their identity is being threatened.  In such cases, clash of ego becomes imminent.

One such worried mother, not able to get along with her only child, came asking: “What has destiny in store about our relationship? Is there any scope of improvement in our relationship in near future? Will he ever care for my sensibilities?”

Well, let me make it clear that destiny is not something like a self-intelligent independent force that could strike unrestrained, and with no scope for being spared of its onslaught. Again, destiny is not something being arbitrated by some independent agency.  Destiny, in fact, is a fallout of how we negotiate the callings of life, and which varies from person-to-person according as one’s unique character. Therefore, destiny can’t be predefined in finite terms.  But given our freedom to make choices, which is duly aided by faculty of discriminate intelligence to pick up the most appropriate lead, it can, however, be consciously shaped to our advantage.

The reason why our relationship goes for a toss is because we usually remain trapped to our habits and attitudes, which does not let us get to the truth underlying seeming realities. Also, we remain ignorant of the existential dynamics, vital to a smooth run of life. The paradox, however, is that it is writ large in nature, but we seldom care to see through it to learn our lesson. A glaring example is the way planetary cabinet in the immediate galaxy, conducts itself. All planets traversing their independent axis, move at their respective speeds, around the Sun. But at the same time they maintain a relativity amongst them, as if they would be conducting as a unified family. While enjoying their independent space discharging individual specific functionalities, they remain in harmony and balance with each other, simultaneously attending to their collective obligations towards the life cycle. Remember, the Sun, though the prime-mover, its radiation by itself can’t sustain life, it has to be joined by energies available from other planetary bodies.  It is this very arrangement that has kept the planetary bodies in harmony and balance since time immemorial. A relationship conducted in this very mode alone can have a smooth go.

That makes it incumbent upon us to watch out our individual limitations and address them before it is too late. With our vulnerabilities gone, our scope of vision expands. You may then look at an issue with an open mind, free from any preconditioning whatsoever, which will make you perceive things in the right perspective. Following which, one would refrain from reacting impulsively on instinctive judgment, which is adversely affecting the lady’s relationship with her son. Instead, one would allow time and space to apply proper forethought before responding to an issue at hand.

Astrological pointers of the lady suggest that she is a domineering lady with a fixated one track mind, not easily amenable to change, coming as it may with Saturn-owned Capricorn lagna, read together with a debilitated Moon. The lagna lord Saturn locks horns with mischievous Neptune, which makes her self-deluding and moody. On top of that wisdom signifying Jupiter is placed adverse to Mercury, identified with intelligence, which accounts for her insensible judgment. If ever she is faced with a contrarian view, even without reasoning, the lady doesn’t take it kindly. She rather feels that her sensibilities are not being taken care of. This is not to suggest that the son is flawless. But then the lady needs to first become accommodative, before expecting from her son to become responsive.  

The writer is an astrologer, vastu consultant and spiritual counsellor. Write to him at G-102, Bharat Nagar, New Friends Colony, New Delhi – 110 025

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