Dear Graham
I've been with my girlfriend for 18 months, and the physical side of our relationship has slowed to a standstill. We are physically affectionate and cuddly, and everything else is great. I'm not feeling attracted to other girls and I'm happy with this one - I just don't feel any sexual urges when I'm with her.
This has happened at about this stage with the two other "serious" relationships I've had, even though they were both more intensely physical than this one to start off with.
Is this normal? I think she may feel the same but I don't know how to raise the subject - or rather, I don't want to bring things to a head if I'm wrong.
If this is just how I am, must I always expect relationships...