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I am a 38-year-old guy and was in love with a girl approximately 10 years ago. We were deeply in love with each other and had a physical relationship, but had to end it after a year or so because of personal reasons. After our separation, she delivered our baby girl who is now 9 years old. She told our daughter everything, and she calls me Dad. My girlfriend had to marry someone else due to pressure from her family. She has three more kids with her husband, but is not happy and has no physical relationship with him. We still love each other and are in touch, though not physically. She doesn't want to live with her husband and wants to live with me. I had to marry due to pressure from my family too, and have a child as well. My wife loves me a lot. I don't know what to do in this situation. Please help!
— Sachin K
This is a complicated situation, because any love triangle always is. I suggest you base your decision on the other lives at stake here, because they are the ones who have been dragged into this for no fault of their own. There are children, a husband and wife involved, and what happened to you and your ex-girlfriend a decade ago can have devastating consequences on their lives today, as well as on their futures. The two of you had a relationship that didn't work out, for whatever reason. Both of you chose to move on. If you are both unhappy about the decisions you made ten years ago, you will both have to evaluate how your forthcoming choices will impact the lives of your families. Is it worth giving up your current life for something that may or may not work out? Do you still feel the same way about each other after a decade has passed? Have either of you had a frank conversation or spoken to lawyers?
Please start with that.
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