I like to weed through “friend” referrals on Facebook, curious as to who they think I should befriend. Not because I’m looking to make new acquaintances — I’m just a little nosy.
Recently, a profile was brought to my attention a few times. I eventually viewed it and was turned off by statements they’d made on their “wall.” I thought I knew who this person was based on stereotypes and personal experiences, and deleted the referral.
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