Perhaps you are biding time for the moon to be in the seventh house before starting that diet/exercise regime which will rid you of the daily podge-poke and raise your self-esteem levels. 

Some of us are hanging around for a sign that the time is right, a certain person to be The One, the market ripe for a brilliant business idea or for our brains to give us the green light to live a life we will love. 

It can dominate our every thought as we await that call, door bell ring, text or ping off an email with a heart full of dread, joy or trepidation. 

Waiting for scary medical test results, to hear from someone you desperately miss or to discover the outcome of a job interview or a book or script submission can be a sort of psychic agony.

On many levels the waiting game is a major part of life and it sucks. 

We can order anything we want in the world with a click of a mouse so why do we have to wait? Oh why? 

Get on with it, hurry up and fast track me to the outcome, I beg thee, please. We need to know and now! 

Our desire to control the future and know the outcomes that await us creates a resistance which hurts and can lead to depression and a disappointment that life is not delivering on the order we cosmically placed. 

Here are a few thoughts which may help you as you play the waiting game:

• No one is going to save or rescue you no matter how many trashy romances you have read. 
• We can control a lot less in life than we think. Stop hurting yourself trying. 
• Sometimes we need to learn to float and go with the flow. Attack water and distrust it and we drown, so relax and trust the process. Resistance, Mr Bond, is futile! 
• Acceptance is the salve for the unknown. 
• There is power in patience. 
• Actively live in the moment despite waiting for the outcome. Don’t waste another day you will never have again living in anxiety of the future. 
• Trust yourself that whatever the outcome you will handle it as you have done countless times in the past. 
• Keep your thoughts on the positive. Don’t dip into despair or feel victimised (“why me?”) by your waiting. 
• Know that all will be made clear one day.
• What can you learn or do as you go through this time? How might you grow from this?

You are not alone. We are all hoping, wishing, praying, wanting, waiting and fingers-crossing – the future will claim us in its own time.

What a difference a day makes

You’ve got to love 80-year-old actress and glamazon Jane Fonda for keeping it real. 

Supernaturally good looking for her age she was photographed appearing exquisitely well-groomed in evening dress and carefully tousled hair at a gala evening at the LA Museum of Modern Art. 

She was also photographed looking hungover and unkempt making a sandwich in the same dress the following morning, having confessed she’d slept in it as she couldn’t undo the zip by herself. 

“I’ve never wanted a husband in my life until now,” she quipped. 

Three husbands later she’s finally found a use for one

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It may seem counter-intuitive but in Bhutan they say contemplating death five times a day brings happiness. 

As a life coach it is a subject that crosses my mind daily, I must confess. 

Am I enjoying this? How can I access happiness now? How can I make a difference/help/add magic? Is what I am doing making the most of the day? These are regular thoughts. 

A new app called We Croak also helps. It sends you five quotes about life and death at different times of day with a reminder that we are all going to die. 

May not be to your taste but I find it simultaneously humorous and sobering.

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Try living the dream right now 

Often people work towards awesome goals. To run a marathon, write a book, secure an impressive status object and then find it was a Pyrrhic victory in achieving it. 

They don’t feel, they say, how they thought they would when once they achieve the dream.

They didn’t feel recognised, they didn’t get the respect or attention they thought they would or their self esteem wasn’t suddenly boosted. 

So here’s the deal. Write out how you want to feel this time in six or 12 months from now. 

Maybe it’s free, satisfied, creative or peaceful. 

Now think is there anything you can do right now to bring about that feeling? 

Let go of something, think or do something differently. 

Define how you want to feel, think what you need to do to get that desired state and adjust your dreams accordingly.