If I go the cougar route
You've got me all wrong there, mate,
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Posted 1 day ago #
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Cougar - Moderator
If I go the cougar route
You've got me all wrong there, mate,But I have so much love to give the right person? ...
Posted 1 day ago # -
I've seen your username, you've definitely got me all wrong there.
Posted 1 day ago # -
It should really be like the old wives tale, half your age plus 7.
Not really sure the norm exists except normal messed up heehee.
As for the kids thing, having seen a woman with 4 years on me or so with 2 kids, not sure I'd go that route again as it does get in the way of time understandably.
Would be sure sweeeet to meet someone in real life and be chased like when I was 16 than being a chaser as it's draining on the fingers lol
Posted 23 hours ago # -
I have decided I am fed up of talking to the weirdos so going to ask 2 of the normal ones out tomorrow (increase my chances of getting a yes
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Posted 23 hours ago # -
But I have so much love to give the right person? ...
With a profile name like poopscoop I'm sure you belong on CL ;d
Posted 23 hours ago # -
wiggles - Member
I have decided I am fed up of talking to the weirdos so going to ask 2 of the normal ones out tomorrow (increase my chances of getting a yesI'm no expert, but don't meet them both at the same time?
Posted 23 hours ago # -
Interesting isn't it wiggles that so many lasses on their profile say @weirdos need not apply" yet so many of them are exactly that to match!
We get a hard rep, surely everyone just wants to get along ffs
Posted 23 hours ago # -
Would be sure sweeeet to meet someone in real life and be chased like when I was 16
Only time I was chased when I was 16, I ran to avoid getting my head kicked in.
Posted 23 hours ago # -
yup!
The most hypocritical thing is the kids thing though, loads of single mums get freaked out and stop talking to me when they find out I have kids.
Posted 23 hours ago # -
Must have been your moderating charm shining through ay! ;d
Seriously had to refuse quite a few when I was younger as I foolishly fell foot first with one and mooochly regret that now.
Thing is I've got a sexual appetite like tigger on roids but I daren't approach women if they look under 30yrs :O
Posted 23 hours ago # -
Poopscoop- same here most relationships have started with "I'm not really looking for a relationship at the moment..." But I eventually wear them down
That's Stockholm Syndrome!
Posted 23 hours ago # -
Seriously had to refuse quite a few when I was younger as I foolishly fell foot first with one and mooochly regret that now.
My life summed up there!
Wasnt much of a hit with the ladies as a teenager as I was just too shy even turned down actual hot girls because I was too scared
then when I was 17/18 I started to get a bit better but then ended up with someone from 18-26 (yes... Louise) so missed out on my shagging prime That's Stockholm Syndrome!
Hey don`t knock my methods
In all honesty I think the ones who said there were just trying to put off the ones who arent willing to put any effort in, fools they were for underestimating how much effort I was putting in for a **** Posted 23 hours ago # -
Sandwich - Member
Poopscoop- same here most relationships have started with "I'm not really looking for a relationship at the moment..." But I eventually wear them down
That's Stockholm Syndrome! Cheeky sod! That made me laugh though!!
Posted 23 hours ago # -
that was me lazily responding to you without quoting you so I said that so no need to get offended
Posted 23 hours ago # -
I'm not even sure what I could have been offended about bud? Lol
Keep us posted on the impending dates!
Posted 20 hours ago # -
I recently installed tinder, was quite surprised at the quantity of filtered selfies, lack of photos showing anything below the neck, and lack of profile info.
These filters are good too, the difference between two photo's of the same person could be startling
I mean I knew it was shallow and vain, but you're just swiping based on someone's face and age. Not very keen. I matched a few in the first day, one didn't talk, and the other two* I know one of, and have mutual friends with the other. So may as well have gone to the pub. Deleted it. *I do not live in a city.
Can see it's merit as a hook up thing, but not my scene.
Posted 17 hours ago # -
Well asked the normalest (new word needed for this subject) one to grab a coffee next weekend and she said yes so will have to try and not screw that one up might ask the next normalest one as well bit think she prefers things stronger than coffee
Posted 5 hours ago # -
I am getting nervous now
Talked to her quite a lot to do and seems really nice but dont want to get my hopes up to much as she might run a mile when she sees me
Posted 1 hour ago # -
wiggles - Member
I am getting nervous nowTalked to her quite a lot to do and seems really nice but dont want to get my hopes up to much as she might run a mile when she sees me
Ok I'll just refer to "online dating" as although I'm new to tinder I'm not New to online dating.
Great thing is, she has seen your face. Straight off you know she is at just not turned off by you. Probably quite the opposite mate!
You've already "talked" even if not on the phone? A very good thing, I've broken.
Hell,I once went on date and joked to the lady concerned that I could give her a lift home if she wished as I'd already emptied the seat of the axe and duct tape! Years later we are still in touch... She knew well before the date I had an odd humour but I knew she did too.Lol
Best advice ever is to let her do a lot of the talking. Sounds easy but here is the difficult bit (for some men!) Actually listen to what she is saying, take it in, be genuinely interested.
Also, with the net, there REALLY ARE plenty more fish in the sea. So don't apply pressure to yourself. Have a laugh, talk about your hobbies* and see what happens.
I went on a date once with a pirated DVD of a movie I knew she liked....to be confronted with my date having a lovely bunch of flowers for me!
Initially a bit awkward but we just had a laugh about it!
*Don't talk compulsively about camping, biking, metal detecting or stream punk. A friend, ahem, has been known to do that.
Posted 52 minutes ago # -
She already made the serial killer joke so dont worry
Thanks for the tips though I have been on dates from online stuff but not tinder and in all honesty previously It wasn't really a case of choosing the best out of the ones I was talking to as going out with the one that talked to me so that is why im a bit nervous as I`m going into it thinking she is genuinely very nice rather than convincing myself to go because I have no other option.
But yeah big thing is dont put any pressure on it, if it goes tits up and is awful then Just learn from it and move on...
Posted 34 minutes ago # -
wiggles - Member
She already made the serial killer joke so dont worryIf you pass, give me her details,I like the sense of humour! Lol
Yeah, sorry, didn't mean to try and teach you how to such eggs.
I used to be painfully shy till my letter 30's really. Then a longish relationship ended and I started dating then internet dating and I really don't even get nervous on a date anymore. It is a learning exercise as you say.
I think you're much younger than me? Man,I wish I could go back in time and tell myself not to be so introverted and just enjoy the experience more.
You have time on your side mate, I'm envious!
Posted 18 minutes ago #
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