Dear Abby: I love my grandson dearly. He lived with us off and on growing up because there were problems in his birth family. Our relationship was always close and loving. When he grew up, he joined the military and met a girl on the opposite side of the country who he’s planning to marry. The problem is, she’s insecure and doesn’t want him to have any contact with his family or friends. To say our hearts are broken doesn’t describe our feelings of abandonment and sorrow. While we think he’s making a mistake by marrying such a controlling person, we realize it’s his decision to make. We wouldn’t dream of interfering. How do we cope with our feelings of betrayal and rejection from someone we love so dearly?

Cast Aside

 

Latest entertainment videos

Now Playing:
  • Now Playing
    Gillian Anderson Confirms She’s Leaving 'The X-Files' EWTime
  • Guy Shows How to Quickly Prepare Green Beans Storyful
  • Khloe Kardashian and Tristan Thompson’s Love Story Started With a Blind Date MarieClaire
  • Kids Interview The Cast Of 'Paddington 2' PeopleTime
  • Will Mariah Carey star in a buddy cop movie with Sharon Stone? Fox5Atlanta
  • Tom Hardy Debuts as Venom in First Look at Spider-Man-Based Film EWTime
  • Oprah Shows Effect of California Mudslides on Her Home TMTime
  • Competitive Eater Polishes Entire KFC Family Meal in Under Fifteen Minutes Storyful
  • Filmmaker revisits David Bowie to document final years AP
  • Liam Neeson Defends Dustin Hoffman Saying Sexual Harassment Scandals Has Led To a 'Witch Hunt' Buzz60


Dear Cast Aside: Your grandson may have joined the armed forces, but where his love life is concerned, the stronger partner is his fiancee. The situation you have described is sad, but not as unusual as you may think. I have heard from heartbroken parents whose sons turned their backs on them after the wedding because their wives’ parents took precedence. How they cope with their hurt and disappointment varies. Some of them talk to their religious advisers, others to therapists. The healthy ones keep their eyes forward and go on with life, and that’s what I am hoping you eventually decide to do.

Dear Abby: My neighbor, “Sandy,” gave me a “thank-you pie” she had baked, saying it was a family recipe. I am aware that I have reactions to the standard allergens of life, bee stings and poison ivy, but after one bite of her pumpkin pie, I felt an intense burning sensation in my mouth and my throat swelled up. I always keep medication with me, so I was able to stay out of the emergency room. Sandy has left messages asking if I liked her pie. I’m not sure what to say to her. I’d really like to know what was in that recipe so I can avoid it in the future.

No More Pie, Please

Dear N.M.P.P.: Apologize to Sandy for not returning her call sooner and explain that you didn’t because you had a serious allergic reaction to one of the ingredients in her thank-you pie. Tell her you were fortunate to have had medication with you or you would have wound up in the emergency room. Then ask her what ingredients in the pie might have caused the reaction so you can avoid them in the future.