I'm a 17-year-old girl and my boyfriend is 18. We have been together for three months and my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. I'm scared because of my friend's experience
I'm a 17-year-old girl and my boyfriend is 18. We have been together for three months and my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. I'm scared because of my friend's experience. Her boyfriend used her and left her, so I just want a fun relationship. What do you suggest I do?
— Nidhi
I think you're entitled to a fun relationship. You're only 17. You shouldn't have sex with anyone unless you really want to. If your boyfriend doesn't respect you enough to treat you the way you would like to be treated, you are probably putting too much pressure on yourself to be in a relationship. Don't worry about how your friends have been treated by their partners either, because that is not a reflection of who you are and what your relationship is like. Go with what you feel strong about. If you're not comfortable having sex, irrespective of what your reason is, don't have it. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you to have it with someone you truly want to be intimate with.
What do I do about my constant obsession with sex? It's always on my mind and it prevents me from having normal relationships with people because I keep thinking about what they would be like in bed. I watch way too much pornography, which may be the root cause of this problem, but I can't bring myself to stop. What can I do?
If you recognise the problem, you're on your way to fixing it. If you believe pornography gets in the way of you having normal relationships with people — and it probably does — you will simply have to be strong enough to wean yourself off it. Try doing something more productive, like reading a book or going for a walk instead. Also, try and recognise to what extent this problem is affecting you, and why it needs to be resolved, because that is what will give you the strength to fight it.
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