My wife doesn't like it when I spend time with my male friends. She thinks we gossip about our partners all the time, which is ridiculous
My wife doesn't like it when I spend time with my male friends. She thinks we gossip about our partners all the time, which is ridiculous. How do I get her to recognise that meeting my friends is important for my mental well-being?
Why don't you invite her out with them a few times and get her to understand how important the relationship with them is to you? Tell her how you feel. Doesn't she spend time with her own friends? Ask her to try harder and put herself in your shoes. I am a very shy boy who gets uncomfortable when introduced to new people. I don't have a girlfriend. I sometimes feel lonely because of this. Does the look of a person matter? I get a bit nervous when I am with girls and don't talk to them much. It's why I am always in the 'friend zone.' How do I change this?
— Aakash H
There's nothing to change, simply because you have to accept who you are and learn to use it to your advantage. Not being able to communicate with people is a temporary issue that will change as you grow older, simply because exposure to new people and environments will compel you to adapt. If you're worried about being lonely, a girlfriend won't solve that. Loneliness isn't about not being in a romantic relationship; it has more to do with not being able to speak to someone about how you feel. Do you have no male friends or family members you are close to?
Try speaking to them first, and opening up about how you feel about things. Don't worry about being unable to speak to girls, because the confidence to do that will come when you are comfortable in your own skin. Accept who you are first, before worrying about how the world looks at you. You don't need to be someone you're not just because you feel the need to be in a relationship.
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