Should I date someone I am not attracted to, even if I like spending time with him? I know looks shouldn't matter, but they do
Should I date someone I am not attracted to, even if I like spending time with him? I know looks shouldn't matter, but they do.
If you enjoy spending time with someone, you really should, because it's hard to find such people in one's life. Try and figure out whether you're attracted to this person later.
My wife has an annoying habit of spending a week or two every year with her childhood friends. They go on a holiday for a week, leaving their respective husbands behind, saying that it's personal time they need to enjoy themselves. I don't resent it, but I find it strange that I am not allowed to be part of this group despite the fact that my wife and I have been together for six years now. She says she doesn't want me to be part of it because these friends are special to her, but my argument is we should share friends too, if we share everything else. We have had a few heated talks about this, and I am considering not calling her when I meet my own friends from now on. Is this a good idea? Am I being too possessive?
This is childish on so many levels. They are her friends and she is perfectly entitled to spend time with them alone, without your presence, if she chooses to. You should actually encourage it, because couples who manage to balance their personal lives with their married lives have stronger bonds. As for not taking her along to meet your friends, as an act of retaliation, you sound like a schoolboy who wants to run away from the game because he hasn't been given a chance to bat. Enjoy your time with your friends, and your wife, and learn to enjoy your time by yourself when she goes off with her friends too. This isn't about being possessive. It's about common sense and learning to behave like an adult. It seems about time you did so.
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