How can I tell my girlfriend that I don't like her sense of dressing?
How can I tell my girlfriend that I don't like her sense of dressing?
Your opinion is subjective, so you shouldn't have a problem being honest about it. She is entitled to accept or ignore it outright though, so I suggest you prepare yourself for that too.
This is about something that happened a few years ago. I was dating someone at the time, and had a drunken one-night stand with a colleague. We promised it would never happen again and drifted apart after I moved to another office. I ran into him a few days ago though, and found out that he also works in my current organisation, although he is on another floor and in another department. We chatted for a bit, had lunch at the office canteen, and realised that we are both single. He thinks we should go out, but I have my reservations because that one-night stand keeps playing on my mind. If he could cheat on someone back then, what will prevent him from doing it again? Am I being paranoid?
I don't know about the paranoia, but I have to point out that there's certainly a bit of hypocrisy at work here.
If you are worried about him cheating on you, it's strange how you have conveniently ignored the fact that you were cheating on someone at the time too. Shouldn't he have the same fears about you, then? Also, aren't you jumping the gun a little here? You haven't gone on a date with him yet, don't really have a clue about what he's like as a person, and assume that the two of you will get into a relationship simply because you both happen to be single and had a one-night stand a few years ago? I suggest you re-evaluate what you are looking for, what you think this person is like, and whether or not you want to be with him at all, before speculating about whether or not this is going to work.
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