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My girlfriend is addicted to Instagram. She checks her phone constantly even when we are out on a date. How do I get her to stop?
Send her a message on Instagram saying you won't go out with her if she is not interested. Send her a second message pointing out that her behaviour is not just rude, it's disrespectful to anyone she is with. Finally, send her photographs of other men, asking her to try dating them if she doesn't want to go out with you anymore.
What's the best way to end a relationship without risking a lot of bad blood and unnecessary arguments? I want to end it with my girlfriend, but am hesitant because she will immediately burst into tears, then attack me, accuse me of using her and say all kinds of nasty things to me. I am dreading this so much because I have seen her behave like this with other people. It's this fear that still keeps me in this relationship, which is unfair to me because I would like to move on. I don't even have any feelings for her anymore. How do I convince her that this is a bad idea? How do I get out of it without any of these attacks? She can be very vindictive, so I am afraid of what she may tell my friends too.
It sounds as if you are in this relationship for all the wrong reasons. If it's not working, you really ought to step up and talk about it. If your girlfriend behaves in the immature manner you have described, continuing to be with her to avoid that scenario is really not a sensible option, because you are only making this worse for you both. If it won't work and that confrontation is inevitable, then why put it off? Don't allow the fear of what other people may think to get in the way of doing what is right for you. Put yourself first and make a decision.