I want to ask my best friend's sister out, but I'm afraid this will anger my friend because he is very protective of her. How do I convince him?
If you call him your best friend, you really ought to be able to talk to him about anything and everything. If he is protective of his sister, won't he be more supportive of her going out with someone he knows, rather than a complete stranger? The most important thing to consider, however, is the possibility that his sister may have no interest in
you whatsoever.
My boyfriend recently had sex with a woman while on a bachelor's party for a friend, and admitted it to me. He said he was drunk and promised me it would never happen again. I was devastated because this was unlike him, but I eventually forgave him because he seemed sincere and had never given me reason to suspect him in any way before this happened. The thing is, I can no longer bring myself to sleep with him. The minute we start to get physical, I feel a strong revulsion because I keep thinking of him with that other woman. He is not upset because he says he understands how I feel, but I don't think this relationship has a future any longer, given how I react to his presence. Is there any solution to this?
There's nothing you can do but wait until you find it in your heart to truly forgive him. Your reaction is understandable, and your decision to forgive, commendable. It does seem as if you haven't really forgiven him though, hence the inability to accept him completely. You should talk to him about how you feel, and make him understand that this betrayal will take you time to process. If it doesn't seem as if you will ever be able to move on from that incident, which may very well happen too, you will both know soon enough. Until then, keep talking.
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