Astroturf : Correct self before blaming others

Life is all about how well we understand our relationship with the environment, the people around us, and with society at large.  For, this world is essentially structured into an interdependent framework. Remember, no individual is born capable enough to service one’s existential needs by oneself in one’s own right, be they physical, material, or emotional in nature. It therefore, becomes incumbent upon us to complement and supplement the efforts of each other, to make up for each other’s inadequacies, and create a sense of togetherness.  So, being in harmony with all those around becomes imperative.  All relationships in the society are premised on this. 

The paradox, however, is that each being is born unique, everyone manifests varying mind traits – specific individual beliefs, desire trends, habits and attitudes, likes and dislikes, prejudices and passions, as well as virtues and attributes.  In a way, we are all born with a preconditioned mind. Our ahamkara (ego) then tempts us to passionately go about how our minds are inherently framed.  Now, with each one of us zealously following a specific line of thinking and behavioural pattern, we are often in conflict with those around us. Consequently, our relationship goes for a toss.  The worst happens when one begins living more in the ‘demanding mode’ than in the ‘giving mode’. Of late, this tendency seems to be on the rise beyond proportion, and has obvious consequences.

To overcome such unseemly situations, a lesson in inter-personal relationship skills becomes necessary.   Normally, people remain conscious on this score at work. At home, however, people take their partners and other family members for granted. There their true nature remains on display.  Evidently, it is detrimental to familial peace.  It may not be out of place to mention here that normally lessons in inter-personal relationship skills are imparted in dos and don’ts mode. But that won’t work. For, the moment emotions take over, one’s more natural tendencies begin to play the devil. They become vulnerable to unmindfully lock horns with others.

When an unseemly situation arises, invariably people are inclined to find fault with others rather than realising one’s own slippages.  What they often forget that nobody is ever born perfect, and that includes the self.  It is again equally true that if one carries a few weaknesses, the positives would be invariably on the higher side.  So, for the sake of leading a smooth life, we shall have to learn to find a sense of balance between all these inconsistencies.  The irony, however, is that when we indulge too much in trivial issues, we get fixated on other’s faults, often ignoring their positives. What, therefore, is called for is to first have exposure to existential dynamics, whence one may realise where to draw a line in relationship matters. Second, self-reflect and the ability to identify ones own infirmities.  Often, our ego does not let us acknowledge our own weaknesses.  Here comes astrology into play, which could dispassionately figure out one’s personality traits with a fair amount of precision.

Recently a hassled father came seeking guidance on the future of his son’s marital life, which was on the rocks.   He had many grievances against his daughter-in-law.  After analysing his son’s chart, he was advised to counsel his child to first work upon his inherent weaknesses that were immense. After that, he could expect his spouse to be kinder. “Why? He is such a nice guy,”  the gentleman retorted. He was then given an account of his child’s personality trends. Born in Cancer lagna, with its lord Moon locked in adverse formation to Venus, the boy had a tendency to be too sensitive and was vulnerable to mood swings. The Sun ill-disposed off to Moon and Venus spoke of his volatile emotional state, which made him susceptible to emotional conflicts and led to crisis and disharmony with others.  Mars opposite Uranus made him temperamental and irrational. Mercury posited in a Mars-owned sign, combined with Rahu and ill-disposed off to Jupiter, accounted for his fidgety nature as well as insensible reasoning and judgment. Jupiter in debility was placed adverse to mischievous Neptune, which implied that he would be stuck to his peculiar self-defined beliefs, often distanced from ground realities. On top of that was his stubborn nature, coming as it may with both the luminaries, the Sun and Moon, occupying fixed signs. The result was there to see.

The writer is an astrologer, vastu consultant and spiritual counsellor. Write to him atG-102, Bharat Nagar, New Friends Colony, New Delhi – 110 025

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