Is it strange that a man I have never spoken to wants me to go out for coffee simply because he thinks I'm beautiful?
You can evaluate this better than anyone else. Go with your instinct.
My relationship with my boyfriend has had its ups and downs, but he says he wants to end it now because he thinks he doesn't love me anymore. I don't know if this is because we have more arguments than usual or because he has found someone else, because he doesn't talk about it, but I think we can save this if we try hard enough. I have apologised for my behaviour, promised to be more reasonable, even done all kinds of nice things to make him feel special, but none of this has helped. I am prepared to meet a professional too, but he simply doesn't want to give it a chance. We have been together for two years, but that doesn't seem to matter to him. What can I do about it?
Relationships need to be worked upon, as you probably understand quite well by now. Being with someone also teaches you about when you think the other person will refuse to let go of an idea. In this case, it seems as if your boyfriend really does want to end this. It also sounds as if you have done everything you could to salvage the situation. Ultimately, someone telling you he doesn't love you anymore really is a hard obstacle to get over. Ask yourself about the things you have done and what you think you can do to change his mind, and also whether or not it seems as if he wants his mind changed at all. If everything you have done has failed, ask yourself if it makes sense to pursue a relationship that doesn't involve two people working to make it together. If your boyfriend isn't willing to pull his weight too, for how long will you manage by yourself?
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